“I was not married when I wrote this article but see me smiling in the picture as I look forward to a blissful life. Kindly take time to enjoy this article.”

If you were not married, were you having a ‘complete’ dress rehersal? Yes, you are smiling and she is holding your hand. Umhuh, we see that.

“As I ponder and wonder on this particular word, it makes me relish the days where there is no responsibility. Hey stop there, before your mind starts wondering- I aint married yet but I understand the concept of marriage- the pains, the joy, the misunderstandings, the selfishness, the teamwork, the facade and the most important of all, the sex.”

I wonder, why is it that people feel that they have (or had) NO RESPONSIBILITIES before they get (got) married? This is as though, they had no rent, no car, no food to eat, no thing(s) that they had to buy or person(s) they felt accountable for or to for any reason whatsoever. You state that you weren’t married when you wrote this article; however, you stated that you understood “the concept of marriage” and went on to relate to “pain, joy, misunderstanding, selfishness, teamwork, facade, and MOST IMPORTANT OF ALL — sex.” Why would your first word to be associated with marriage be “pain” and why is sex most important of all?

For you to “understand the concept of marriage” is quite an accomplishiment as courts around the world are struggling to define this voluntary state of being between people. Some countries are even discussing abolishing it while others are struggling to somehow protect it — whatever they define it to be.

Where do I begin from, Young man gets attracted to the woman, romance is set ablaze and young man decides to marry woman after undergoing various processes of knitting-enjoys company, like the same kind of skill-set, able to understand her/his weakness. Wedding day is set with all anticipation for a wonderful life ahead and finally the honeymoon is ended after physically discovering the partner (assuming there was no sex b4 marriage). Realities set in and they both feel like being trapped especially the man- he feels she lied to him about herself.

This paragraph went well until the last sentence: “Realities set in and they BOTH feel like being trapped ESPECIALLY THE MAN — he feels she lied to him about herself.” Wow, that statement is enough to stop anyone from every getting married every again! Here’s hoping that that “reality” is not one that everyone experiences. The ‘feeling’ of being trapped had to have been in the consciousness of the individual prior to them standing at the altar and should have been a sign that they were not yet ready for a committed life. As you can see, I don’t believe that marriage is a trap. Explain to me why, the man, who many times likes to present himself as the conqueror of the universe, could possibly be the one to allow himself to be trapped in a situation?

Then lastly, that statement of betrayal: “he feels she lied to him about herself.” That’s a double WOW! The lack of confidence and belief in the sincerity of the individual began before the night of the honeymoon. Again, now this is just my feeling, one feels deep inside and hears voices telling them that something is not quite right about this person — why don’t you ask this question — oh, wait just a little while longer — do you want to ask and tell about everything — are you going to be satisfied…? That kind of feeling of distrust didn’t begin on the honeymoon night — it began long before and is a sign that there should be no wedding — or at least that there needs to be lots more conversation and understanding prior to the marriage.

Anyway, that’s all I have time for today. Hope to return and finish up someday.

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