whatever the case, we need to tell ourselves some truths. until something happens to you it is very easy to stand by the corner and pass judgements about what is good or bad. it is the person that is wearing the shoe that feels the pinch.

In this life one very important thing we have is the right to CHOOSE. i am not saying abortion is right or wrong, what i am saying is that if i am ever placed in that situation or if somebody else is in such a situation, then let us kindly have the right to CHOOSE

Abortion!!!

It's a topic that's extremely easy to pass quick judgemental comments about. It's wrong, it's murder, It's the consequence of a choice...e.t.c. But can we really generalize?

First, I'll tell you that my stand is, no to abortion. I'll also silently mutter under my breath, that may I never have a reason to consider otherwise. Who no know, no know, it's who it touches that knows.

I remember being faced with the dilema of helping someone decide about this some years back. She was raped! Rappist unknown. She was also young, immature, and not street wise (these were all good things, by the way), she came to me 3 months after...thoroughly confused. I thought it was an easy decision until she layed the story on me.Truth is, it isn't an easy decision. I could do an analysis on the factors you could consider...maybe when Dipo posts his continuation.

That was when I learnt a lot of things, about threatening abortion, about aborting before knowledge of conception, about washing out the baby, about progesterone, about foetal abnormalies, about all sorts. I spoke with doctors, I read, I prayed, I thought. Which is a better memory? The thought of a child, and maybe a family destroyed, or the constant reminder of the «event».

After that event, i came to one conclusion. Pray that you are free of evil, seek for knowledge/counsel quickly (you never need to know you are pregnant), Abortion never works. If it's self inflicted live with it, you'll be glad you did...and don't kill your good ideas as well, God does not bring to the point of labour without delivering. If you are in pain in the course of your vision, something is about to happen!!!

It's not an easy decision, but i believe it should be made. i know someone who was in the very same shoes as your friend's some years ago, and she chose not to have an abortion.

truth is it wasn's easy, facing her family and friends and the «brother» who denied, and the responsibility being a parent came with, it just changed her whole course.

But my opinion, better to live being a parent than with a memory you would rather not live with.

Encourage her to do the right thing.

It's not an easy decision, but it i believe it should be made. i know someone who was in the very same shoes as your friend's some years ago, and she chose not to have an abortion.

truth is it wasn's easy, facing her family and friends and the «brother» who denied, and the responsibility being a parent comes with, it just changed her whole course.

But my opinion, better to live being a parent than with a memory you would rather not live with.

Encourage her to do the right thing.

Thanks Dipo, talking about principles, in all situations, whether good or bad, our choices lead us to the consequeces of our actions. This is a basic principle. Before the action, your heart pounds, you either weigh the pleasure and trivialize the consequence or the converse. This could be said about both the pre-pregnancy stage and the this pre-abortion stage. My rhetorical question is, having made the first choice and faced the consequence, would she be willing to make a second choice in the same direction and live with the impending consequence? We are often forced to make decisions withing the boundaries of the present while we neglect the futuristic implicatiions of our present decisions. My advice in as much as i understand the pains of bearing an untimely child (not an unwanted child) is that the lady should try to forecast and see what the future holds with and without the child and make her choice.That way, she will be held responsible for her choice. lastly, deep in our hearts, we all know the truth and when we apply it...it sets us free.

Hello,
Pls before you post more comments, i ll like everyone to PAUSE and THINK! Yes we are not supposed to. yes, yes, yes, yes,yes!.But it easier to be there and pass the judgement.Like i always tell people u can never no how it feels until u find yourself in the same PAINFUL position.
We have had wonderful comments so far.

Thank you Dipo for this opportunity to comment. From the religious angle. Abortion is murder!!! We may try to rationalise or explain it away, but it doesn't change the truth.

I believe there is a strong bond between mother and child. Aborting a child, no matter what the mother tells you, shall definetly NEVER leave her the same way she was before the abortion. For all her life, she will be wondering what that child could have grown up to become.

The lady with the unfortunate incident could give the child out for adoption. I think that will be lighter on her conscience than if she aborts the child.

Thank you.

Hello Dipo, thanx for raising this subject. Abortion is a very serious issue, especially now in Nigeria with all the talk on the Abortion bill being considered. The fact is that in every abortion, one life is lost and one woman is wounded.Abortion is not the end of a would be life, it is the termination of an already existing human being as his/her heart begins beating btw 18 and 25 days of concepton which is mostly likely before the mother even knows she's pregnant. No matter the situation leading to pregnancy, we must never forget that the child is not responsible for his conception nor is he guilty of any crime. He/her has as much rights to life as any of us, so the mother should not deny the child of his/her rights. Abortion stops a beating heart and great personality to be might just be the aborted. Most importantly, we must not try to play God, cos thats what we do when we decide who lives and who dies in abortion. If God brings one to it, he'll definitely bring one through it. Have a nice day.