dipo,

u av made a good point wit d story of Ade & Shade, but i don't believe any1 wil go into a relationship wid no ambition or purpose. I'll support gift's coments, take another look at the scenario. Tosin

i'm beginnin to think three times about u dipo! esp how much of an authority u are on these issues u write on. yeah every one has a perspective so it'd be cool if u (first) are able to draw the line btwn ur perspective and the established facts. dont forget u can only say things from ur perspective!
lust, love, hate... the motive bhind what we do in and out of love, bla bla. on a pragmatic note we are humans (fact not excuse) so what is mostly obtainable are r/s borne out of innate selfishness not necessarily on a conscious level. tell me that u'd go out with some1 purely out of charity (even that wud be selfish because u'd prob expect the person to be subservient...) or u'd go into a r/s with ZERO/ NADA gain, not even the simple fact that «ok, i've attained the status quo of 'not single'». i think we shd do a better job of facin facts. an eg r/s dat is totally unselfish is primarily God's r/s with us. over time r/s have been and may be redefined btwn those concerned to take on a less selfish nature. so... humans we are and we can only strive towards being as perfect as the God we serve is.

hey dipo - you haven't really told us your views on things.

At times a guy may like a lady and may not know the right words to use especially when they are very close friends. he may want something more intimate and the girl would think he is taking advantage of her. A lady may be attracted to a guy but would die in silence because the guy would go about carrying his shoulders high.He would tell his friends and she would become a laughing stock.If the guy is rich it makes it worst ,people will think its because of the money......so this makes ladies helpless.

kai you have started again - ok - I was also reading a blog xoxo put up too - and its about seing it from the mens perspective - but what you are talking about is different from what casued a storm previoulsy. Its like using wisdom (in shade's case) to find out how the guy is feeling emotional and his views on women.
But its true about how quickly the Love goes - the HIV example is so true; for e.g. you think the guy is loaded and you fall for all his material goods and when you find out his broke - the love disappears. Some women are Incorrigible.