Comments on: SHOULD I STILL MARRY HIM?

By: Lady U

Lady U — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 11:45:59 +0000

God Bless you guys for this reply. This has just gone a long way to confirm that it's the Holy Spirit speaking to me lately about my guy. I keep hearing that as a help meet, i have a lot of work to do.

I pray God to cause your marriage to be «heaven on earth».

Thanks & God bless!

By: Chris

Chris — Mon, 24 Sep 2007 08:03:37 +0000

You have nothing but criticism for him. No - you should not marry him, and he should under no circumstances marry you.

The truth is that more than 67% (no, not 50% - do your homework) of marriages will end in divorce. 92% of the time it will be initiated by the woman for no other reason than she is â€œunfulfilledâ€ â€« oh, and because she gets the kids, the house, at least Â½ the assets and most of his future after tax income for the next 18 years. The man will get raked over in family court. He will lose the house and his kids. He will see his kids 2 out of 14 days (if the ex doesn't level unsubstantiated «abuse» claims.) He will be forced to hand over 40-50% of his take-home pay. If he loses his job due to illness or downsizing, the State will toss him in jail. While jailed the arrearage will grow and the state will charge interest. The State will revoke his driver's and professional licenses, make him virtually unemployable.

If you were to take up sky-diving, and the instructor informed you that 67% of the parachutes were defective, would you take the plunge?

The menâ€™s Marriage Strike is alive and well, thank you.

nomarriage.com

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By: Genesis

Genesis — Fri, 18 May 2007 08:50:40 +0000

HI DIPO ,
i HAVE NOT READ THIS MESSAGE BE4 COS I WAS THINKING DIFFERENTLY .THANK GOD I DID TODAY!
MY DEAR FRIEND IS GETTING MARRIED TOMORRROW AND HAS ALWAYS COMPAINED ABOUT THIS SIMILAR ISSUE BUT TO GOD BE THE GLORY THE GUY IN QUESTION TODAY HAS REALLY CHANGED THANK GOD SHE DIDNT PACK UP THE R/SHIP COS OF HIS DRESS SENSE.

Un1nhibit3d You are just too intelligent, smart, experienced in this matter wentin dey?I am reallly impressed that we ave this type of chic around and pple are getting words from you, even in my church there have been cases of r/ship breaking up cos the chic thinks the guy does not have enough good sense of dressing to be to seen with them but you know they always end up with sad stories.
Thank you so much for this pieces.God Bless.

By: Sa"eed

Sa"eed — Tue, 15 May 2007 07:50:55 +0000

Its real hard to be in your kind of situation.
Many ladies like you would want to go ahead and marry him.
Well, i think it makes sense that you follow your heart.
Where «love» isn't important,your ability to cope with his attitude and tolerate him really counts.
So my dear, if you cannot cope with your man, cannot tolerate him and don't want to spend the rest of your life being sad then don't marry him.
Its for the good of both of you.
Marriage is not by force.

By: Loads

Loads — Sat, 12 May 2007 12:21:39 +0000

If you really love him and he is reado to learn then don't leave him.

By: Biddy

Biddy — Fri, 11 May 2007 15:04:25 +0000

i have enjoyed reading all your contributions and Dipo thanks for this opportunity to read all these inspirational writtings from all the lovely contributors!
Un1nhibit3d, you are the babe!the blessed man that will marry you will be marrying a gem of a woman! i have a feeling you are one of pastor Bims People and girl i am proud of you, if yes, you dey represent her kampe!
Miss H! i tell a lot of single girls that the reason most young girls desire married men is becos someone has worked on them and they are now like the GQ guys and so this girls want them but they are not ready for the work in making these men. everyman is like gold, for you to get him on the shelf, you have to dig and get it and then do the real work of refining it. Ask most women that are happily married or better still have a wonderful relationship, they will tell you they had work to do on themselves and the work is still on going as with God there is no abandoned project! so if the conviction is there be open and talk to him about your expectation and he will make the necessary adjustment as you get along!
when i was in courtship with my husband i had a lot of issues with his dress sense, but the truth was bobo did not have much clothes, so he was making do with what he had! so if na purple shirt dey available he fit wear am with green trouser and white shoes!she laughs! it was not that bad, am just exagerating!he was not use to perfume but thank God he didnt have body odour! but i had to help him out and i gave him hints as well as buying any good shirts and clothes i see that i feel will suit him! Today, he dresses better and combines his clothes beautifully, its now four years of marriage and 2 children after. i am the one trying to catch up with him in dressing!see life!
So dearie, what is important is his heart for God and humanity, his love for you and interest in what you do, his ability to provide and be there for you and above all, your understanding of his purpose in life and how you fit in with this purpose to be a true help suitable for him. All the best!

By: stacy miller

stacy miller — Thu, 10 May 2007 05:09:44 +0000

I believe if there is any doubt in your mind, if you should marry him or not, dont do it. I struggled with my fiancee and the question if I should marry him. There is a reason why you have doubt, follow your heart, I did and found out many things that I would have lived with for the rest of my life.

By: Londoncoool

Londoncoool — Mon, 07 May 2007 08:56:20 +0000

Buy GQ magazine for him, it could come in handy

By: fioricet

fioricet — Mon, 19 Mar 2007 01:44:11 +0000

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By: MS D

MS D — Fri, 02 Mar 2007 01:10:00 +0000

You are not alone. You might think you will get over it with time but it doesn't neccessarily work that way. This is something one can change, you can go out of your way to buy things you would like to see him wear or tell him things you would like to see on him without actually hurting him in anyway or making him feel like he has a poor fashion sense and I think he would appreciate it. He would eventually get your point without you ever telling him you dont like his sense of fashion or you can just let him know how you feel.

By: Angela

Angela — Thu, 07 Dec 2006 15:47:49 +0000

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By: Miss H

Miss H — Thu, 07 Dec 2006 15:27:37 +0000

Un1nhibit3d i wish you all the best in your exams.I just wish i could see your picture. You are so intelligent. I can't wait for your exams to be over so that you would send in more comments.ka emesia.

By: obianuju

obianuju — Thu, 07 Dec 2006 09:06:23 +0000

Hi dipo,i feel this feeling too about a guy i love so much and will want to marry.and this is particularly about the sweat odour which pisses me off.i have not talk to him about this but i know he loves me and will definitely do whatever that will make me happy.So worried girl,talk to your guy about this and i believe he will change.dont let this little thing deprive you of your joy.best of luck