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    By Dipo Tepede, 3 years and 4 months ago

    Mrs. Battered needs ur help!

    Average time to read2:13 minutes aprox.

    Dear readers, it's been awfully long since I posted anything on «ask d POeT» but I sure do have a lot of back log which I would be posting intermittently. Mrs. H got the John Maxwell book she requested from us and we have not seized to continue praying for her.I would have to use my descretion to select the ones I would publish next. Now that the first semester of my MBA program comes to a close this month, I would surely dedicate enough time to this site. I have a lot of goodies coming your way but first let's aid Mrs. Battered; she really needs our help.

    Dear team members,                                    

    I came across this team just about 30mins ago. and i know sharing this with u will give me a sense of relief. 

    I am only 3months old in marriage and I’m not finding it easy at all. I got married to somebody i courted for 7yrs.I have always known him to be a very hostile person but each time he shows his hostility he accuses me of being at fault every time. He was my first and only boyfriend but he treats me just too badly. 

    Let me share this that happened recently, he is a legally practitioner who has been with a law firm 3yrs and has been complaining that his boss has not been treating him well, soon after we got married he started showing unseriousness in his job and i advised to take things easy at after 6months into the year he can take up the decision to quit. He has not been taking heed to my opinion like 2wks back he went late to the office and his boss to it up with him by giving him a suspension letter in anger he wrote his resignation letter and left on getting home from work he told the whole story and I was not very happy with the step he took. 

    Meanwhile i was having menstrual cramps on that day and my husband didn't just give me any attention. He started saying all manner of things to me that night. just this Monday as I was preparing to go to the office i ask him if we could pray together concerning his job and his response was just to poor in a nutshell he has been transferring the aggression of his voluntary actions to me. like I told him out of annoyance that he did what paid his ass why should he always pick on me he just came into the kitchen started using foul words on ,beat me said my legs are bad in his house i just kept quiet got dressed and left for the office. 

    i really feel like quitting I’ve always prayed to God to help. He has really killed my emotions. I’m tired of his brutality. What can I do? Please help, if its all my fault my ready to change. I don't want to bring shame to my family there isn't any record of such.  

               Yesterday night i prayed and the scriptural verse that gave me the conviction about him was what I read unknowing to me. Please help me out.

    Mrs. B

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    12 comments

    Gravatar #12. Loads
    3 years and 3 months ago

    Pray and trust in God almighty he will never disappoint you

    m2m

    Gravatar #11. Genesis
    3 years and 3 months ago

    My dear sister this is really sad how can a guy that confesses love to you turn around to beat the same person.Anyway just like others have advised you got to pray ernestlyif you want to see change in your marriage.There is nothing prayers can not do.R/mber Elijah in the bible how he prayed for raining not to fall for 3 and a half year thats what you are going to do PRAY PRAY PRAY PRAY,dont see it as work instead you would even get changed in the process dont stop praying also be patience with him.Like the yoruba,s would say «suru ni oko obirin».

    Cheer up

    m2m

    Gravatar #10. Biddy
    3 years and 3 months ago

    Dear Mrs Battered!
    i am happy, you know you are in this for life! as Bebe said, you knew about his temper and probably thot you could cope with it in marriage but now you know you are not the Holy Spirit!AS ONLY THE HOLY SPIRIT CAN CHANGE A MAN. When i counsel singles, i tell them, when you see a trait in a man that is destructive dont say I do! UNTIL YOU HAVE DEALT with it in prayers and you have the conviction to go ahead, most times we see all the wrong signs in a relationship and yet go headlong into it and later start crying for help!sisters, lets learn to work with our hearts and heads!
    As a Christian, Divorce is not permitted, but as a person that has worked with abused women before, sometimes especially after all the prayers, its better to seek Christian marriage counsellors and if the beatings get too much, run for dear life before you get killed!no body prays for that to happen but it has happened before. So please bear this and ask God as everyone has adviced to help you while praying for wisdom to carry the cross you have laid on yourself!A wise woman builds up her home but a foolish one tears it down!it is WELL!

    m2m

    Gravatar #9. Bebe
    3 years and 4 months ago

    I'm sorry I'll have to be a little blunt. As much as I emphatise with you and do not pray to find myself in your shoes, you left it too late to leave meaning you have work to do on your knees. I'm glad you didn't say he was pretending when you were dating, you knew fully well and probably thought you could live with it and that you'll have to do. You pronounced your vows in the presence of God and men so there is no going back about it. All the same, I want to encourage you that even if you made a mistake, the Lord can always bring something good out of every situation. I think you need to pray seriously about your husband's temper, read books like The power of a praying wife, encourage yourself, go for counselling if possible. I've seen God deal with seemingly impossible situations and I'm positive he's going to help you but you need to go to Him.
    I wish you the very best and sincerely pray that you will live to enjoy your marriage

    m2m

    Gravatar #8. Londoncoool
    3 years and 4 months ago

    Pray, pray and pray...then relax and see whta the Lord will do for you.

    m2m

    Gravatar #7. Tee
    3 years and 4 months ago

    Firstly, I'll like to say temptations and trials wud surely come, but God has promised not to test us with that which is greater than we are.
    The fundamental thing to like some people have said is to pray - but be sure of what you are praying for and about. The road is surely not as rough as it is, but one thing u need is a controlled tongue, u can achieve dis with the help of the holy spirit. Spend qualitative time in teh word and praying,allow the Holy Spirit to intercede on ur behalf.

    Lastly, do all ur rights at home, food, clothing, (the bed), make sure he lacks nothing.U'll be amazed at the result and don't go telling stories to families and friend. It's inbetween the two of u

    m2m

    Gravatar #6. temi
    3 years and 4 months ago

    The only solution to this is prayer. Don't even think of leaving, remember, you both vowed «for better for worse».God surely makes a way where there seems to be no way.Also, don't try to be harsh at him, i believe he will change.Marraige is not a bed of roses, difficult times comes but don't last forever

    m2m

    Gravatar #5. jane
    3 years and 4 months ago

    The best way to solve a problem is to face it and not run away. All you have to do is go on your knees, pray and fast and I see God intervening in your situation. I have seen men that left home for years to seek solace in the arms of another woman. Their wives claim back their husbands from the strange women through prayers. People change because of several reasons. 3 months into the marriage he started becoming hostile and he resigned without your consent knowing fully well that you are one body and not two. You've got to pray. You can't afford to loose your marriage because he's going to snap at you until he gets a better job. Please don't reply any harsh word he speaks to you, show him love and you'll see a change.

    m2m

    Gravatar #4. Tboy
    3 years and 4 months ago

    You just have to be patient my sister. Your husband has realized that he made the wrong decision and he is venting his anger on you. I'm sur ethings will get better as soon as he gets another job.

    m2m

    Gravatar #3. Towel
    3 years and 4 months ago

    My sister,
    All you have to do is to remain calm & pls dont talk back at him.I'm sure he's fustrasted over taking that decision.You have to be patient.
    Above all,continue to pray without ceasing and i believe that God will intervene in the situation.
    Godbless

    m2m

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