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		<title>Money Tonic Confession</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 13 May 2011 05:56:35 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[You can join me daily as I kick off on a 40-day Money Tonic Confession. The rules are simple; we confess the words below (standing on your two feet) three times at exactly 12am starting from Saturday 14th, May 2011. You can join me to share your daily experience(s) like false start, dryness, sleeping off, &#8230; </p><p><a class="more-link block-button" href="http://www.dipotepede.org/2011/05/13/money-tonic-confession/">Continue reading &#187;</a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.dipotepede.org/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/3903908221_525509a29e_m.jpg"><img class="alignnone size-full wp-image-2104" title="3903908221_525509a29e_m" src="http://www.dipotepede.org/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/3903908221_525509a29e_m.jpg" alt="" width="240" height="240" /></a>You can join me daily as I kick off on a 40-day Money Tonic Confession. The rules are simple; we confess the words below (standing on your two feet) three times at exactly 12am starting from Saturday 14<sup>th</sup>, May 2011. You can join me to share your daily experience(s) like false start, dryness, sleeping off, etc. at the comment session below. After the 40-days, we expect a total change in paradigm concerning our personal finances – “as a man thinks, so is he”. Don’t think about it too much, just do it! You can click <a title="Money Tonic" href="http://www.dipotepede.org/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/Money-Tonic.pdf" target="_blank">HERE</a> to get a printable PDF copy of the Money Tonic.</p>
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<p>1. I attract money easily</p>
<p>2. I have more money coming in than going out.</p>
<p>3. I spend money wisely and comfortable</p>
<p>4. I am open and receptive to new avenues of income</p>
<p>5. Money is my friend; I enjoy my experience with money</p>
<p>6. I am comfortable with large sums of money</p>
<p>7. I am using money to bless my life and the lives of others</p>
<p>8. I am rich and I am generous</p>
<p>9. I am a money magnet and I attract more and more every day.</p>
<p>10. I am worthy and I deserve large sums of money.</p>
<p>11. I am consciously rejoicing and I bless the good fortune of everyone.</p>
<p>12. I am grateful for everything I have in my life right now.</p>
<p>13. I am free of all debt; I am already rich.</p>
<p>14. I am creating large sums of money and money flows into my life easily.</p>
<p>15. I spend money with integrity and I am generous with it because I know there is plenty for others and for me.</p>
<p>16. I am attracting like-minded people to help me fulfill my desires.</p>
<p>17. As I ask for what I want, I allow the universe orchestrate it and bring what I ask for.</p>
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		<title>It&#8217;s Time to Pray</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 08 Apr 2011 19:55:45 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[The Polity in Nigeria is quite heated, friends are willing to quarrel over aspirants they did not know 4 months ago. Strangers are willing to mal-handle each other over aspirants they do not truly know. Everybody want’s their person to win, nobody wants to lose. &#160; Sometimes I play the video of my imagination past &#8230; </p><p><a class="more-link block-button" href="http://www.dipotepede.org/2011/04/08/it-s-time-to-pray/">Continue reading &#187;</a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The Polity in Nigeria is quite heated, friends are willing to quarrel over aspirants they did not know 4 months ago. Strangers are willing to mal-handle each other over aspirants they do not truly know. Everybody want’s their person to win, nobody wants to lose.</p>
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<p>Sometimes I play the video of my imagination past the now, into the future, I evaluate the possibilities if my candidate wins, and if others win. Will the momentum built by the opposition parties be well managed, or will it create instability? I did a survey based on these thoughts, the results I got were scary and I think it depends on many factors.</p>
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<p>My analysis of the political terrain however shows one interesting reality. No matter who wins, Nigeria can never be the same again. The heated debates and campaigns have made all the parties promise us what we the Nigerian people truly deserve, a New Nigeria. Nobody can get there and take us for granted anymore. Rigging is no longer sufficient, the will of the people and their desires will count!</p>
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<p>My heart silently aches over the tense arguments and discourteous use of words by old and young! Most of us are too far from where anything is being shared (when it’s being shared), hence our words and arguments are devoid of financial motivation, but by our desires for change. Our desires for a Nigeria we can be proud of, our desires to tell our children that when they sing the phrase “the labors of our hero’s past”, that our names are in there. Our desire for a Nigeria we can believe in, not one we can be leaving. That even though we were inspired by men, what we passionately strove for was a New Nigeria! And that win or lose, we actually won, because we may not get what we want, but we’ll get what we need! We are certain that when we do our best, God helps us with the rest. We are confident, that God desires that we live to our fullest expression, as individuals and as a nation and that he is more interested in a New Nigeria than all of us.</p>
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<p>My heart is burdened, that if the leaders and candidates are at war with themselves and dedicate articles to demean each other, our fight should not be against people, but against corrupting systems, against poverty, against unemployment, against violence, insecurity and so many vices that bedevil our otherwise great country. Oh, I’m not free of blame myself and I indeed apologize. My passion for change has made me utter words not befitting a king. I have lashed out at people I hold in high esteem, demonized people with different views, castigated great yet opposing candidates and criticized pastors. Though I have my claim to truth, I am sorry indeed. The first step in our prayer for change, is that we the people that are called by God’s name, must humble ourselves, and turn from our wicked ways. Then God will hear from heaven, and heal our land.</p>
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<p>If we focus more on counting our blessings, we’ll realize that never in our nation’s recent history have we been blessed with such a quality of aspirants. If we challenge ourselves to find the positives in every aspirant, we would indeed find, and some of what we will find would be exciting.</p>
<p>Brothers and Sisters, let’s quit the war. Let’s turn our swords to agricultural instruments and be ready to support the change we desire once voting is done. All those who are in the political scenes today, have 10-15yrs of Political relevance. We have 30-40 active years ahead of us, the future is ours, and it’s our responsibility to guard it. It’s time to pray for God’s will, time to pray for peace and healing. It’s time to rebuild our walls and infrastructures, it’s time for a fresh start. While we pray, it’s also time to watch. To cast our votes for our conscience, and to understand that in a democracy, the winner is the one that the majority wants, and that it is our responsibility as citizens, to accept whoever wins and provide the necessary support and checks to move our democracy forward.</p>
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<p>I have a dream of a Nigeria that works, a Nigeria that my children can school in and stand taller than students from anywhere in the world in every way. I have a dream of a Nigeria where corruption, power failure, insecurity, poverty, ethnic or religious bias only exists as history topics. I have a dream of a Nigeria where the street cleaner has her own house, where announcing “I’m a Nigerian” makes everybody around you feel comfortable that a competent and trustworthy person is here. The future we desire is possible, from now till the elections are over, I invite you to join us as we pray! If you can even fast, you are welcome as well. Wherever you are, at Noon daily. Let’s pray! Prayer points will be seen across the facebook status pages of many of us.</p>
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<p>North, South, East, West, Muslim, Christian or neither, under God, we are One!</p>
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<p>BY: Deolu Akinyemi</p>
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		<title>Baba IJEBU</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 15 Jun 2009 06:19:11 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Shock actually begets me when I reviewed the data from a Microfinance research on business outfits with the highest weekly turnover in my area (which I can regard as a suburb). I could see the relevant of this type of research to a Microfinance bank whose sole interest is in preventing bad loans but for &#8230; </p><p><a class="more-link block-button" href="http://www.dipotepede.org/2009/06/15/baba-ijebu/">Continue reading &#187;</a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p class="MsoNormal"><span><a href="http://www.dipotepede.org/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/2449986207_f0e9d5ab97_m.jpg"><img src="http://www.dipotepede.org/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/2449986207_f0e9d5ab97_m.jpg" class="alignnone size-full wp-image-973" title="2449986207_f0e9d5ab97_m" alt="2449986207_f0e9d5ab97_m" width="240" height="140" /></a>Shock actually begets me when I reviewed the data from a Microfinance research on business outfits with the highest weekly turnover in my area (which I can regard as a suburb). I could see the relevant of this type of research to a Microfinance bank whose sole interest is in preventing bad loans but for someone like me; my primary focus is in the right business to invest in. the data was actually revealing with Church ranked as number one business outfit with the highest weekly turnover and Baba Ijebu was ranked number 2. </span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span>My assumptions of peoplesâ€™ need prior to reading this research was very wrong; I realize that it is these assumptions that have made me loses in some of my business undertakings. This revelation further confirmed to me that no matter how juicy a business deal may sound or appear, research is very important; no assumptions, no emotions, just plain fact! I assumed the highest ranked would revolve around the basic needs of a Nigerian like food, shelter, clothing, communication, transportation and education. Wow! I was even more shocked when I saw the 3<sup>rd</sup> ranked â€“ Beer parlor/prostitute joint (well, thatâ€™s the way they placed it).</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span>Ok, letâ€™s forget about this data for a while and concentrate on my topic today â€“ Baba Ijebu. For most of you who do not have the faintest idea of what Baba Ijebu is, let me attempt to define it as â€œlay manishâ€™ as possible, Baba Ijebu is a local lotto outfit where you can play with as little as ten naira and win from thousands to millions. Their offices are characterized with small kiosk and a red machine based on smart card technology for placing your number. Why is this local lotto business doing well when a large lotto business like the Lagos Lotto floated by the Ibru family failed? (A food for thought!).</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span>My main concern is not actually with the business but the consumers that make the business exist in the first place. Why do people patronize this stuff a lot? I quizzed some mechanics and petit traders, who are obviously fans of Baba Ijebu and their answers were similar and boils down to the fact that they can reap a lot without going through the process of building anything. This is thus the psychology of an average Nigeria and it is safe to say the Baba Ijebu exist in human nature. Why build when you can circumvent the process and any platform that can help you circumvent the process is a winning formula.</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span>As I thought hard and long about the two speaking engagements I was invited to this coming weekend (one in Lagos and the other in Enugu), I realize the importance of shaping the minds of youths. I realize that if we can shape peopleâ€™s expectations, then it would be easy to transit the challenges of building. Building (whether relationships, business, career, family, etc) is regarded as a hard, painful (removing you from your comfort zone) and a long process so many people try as much as possible to avoid it. Anything good that is accompanied by joy and fulfillment follows the following five stages: <span> </span></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><strong><span>The Inspiration Stage</span></strong><span>: </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span><a href="http://www.dipotepede.org/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/93679057_6d10cad27c_m.jpg"><img src="http://www.dipotepede.org/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/93679057_6d10cad27c_m.jpg" class="alignnone size-full wp-image-964" title="93679057_6d10cad27c_m" alt="93679057_6d10cad27c_m" width="160" height="240" /></a>This is the phase that you get inspired to pursue a dream; indecision becomes your best pal; should I ask her out? Is it the right time to start the business? My heart leans towards this course but I have hardly seen any successful person that followed this path. We are mostly held back because the dream seems far ahead but just when we are about to give up, miraculously we start getting confirmation from various sources. This particular stage is very important because voices are quite deceptive; you cannot tell which one is from within or which one you picked from your physical environment. This stage acts as the foundation of any building so it is important not to jump the gun. Spend time with God and you will get a confirmation that would drain all doubts.</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><strong><span>The Honeymoon Stage</span></strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span><a href="http://www.dipotepede.org/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/42505324_076b6b0547_m.jpg"><img src="http://www.dipotepede.org/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/42505324_076b6b0547_m.jpg" class="alignnone size-full wp-image-975" title="42505324_076b6b0547_m" alt="42505324_076b6b0547_m" width="240" height="192" /></a>This is the stage when you finally take the plunge and you are finally excited about your decisions. You will be wondering why you spent so much time in the Inspiration Stage. For a young believer, this is when everything he petitions for works our favorably; for lady that just got married, her husband is the best thing that has ever happened to her since slice bread. This stage can last from one month to as long as five years. <span><span>Everything is exciting, everything is new, and youâ€™re running on adrenalin.Â  You infatuate over the idea of your new venture; if itâ€™s business, you will be dreaming of the mountains of wealth you are going to create with it.</span></span></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span><strong><span>The Reality Stage</span></strong></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span><span><a href="http://www.dipotepede.org/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/288695593_8a329143c5_m.jpg"><img src="http://www.dipotepede.org/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/288695593_8a329143c5_m.jpg" class="alignnone size-full wp-image-977" title="288695593_8a329143c5_m" alt="288695593_8a329143c5_m" width="210" height="240" /></a>In this stage, you realize things are not as rosy as you envisioned; panic sets in â€“ the business isnâ€™t making nearly as much money as you thought it would.Â  In fact, itâ€™s either losing money big time or barely breaking even.</span> As if for the first time, you noticed the flaws of your spouse and these flaws are affecting you big time. From the point where you stood, everything looks grim and there seem to be no hope in sight. For employees who gave up their jobs to start business; they start freaking out and contemplating going back to beg for their old job back.</span> This phase is where most people give up and quit; this is where the men are separated from the boys. This is where intimacy is lost in a marriage for most Nigerians but for guys in the developed countries, divorce is imminent.</p>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span><strong><span>The Judgment Stage</span></strong></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span><span><a href="http://www.dipotepede.org/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/2587924558_6c5e4b4504_m.jpg"><img src="http://www.dipotepede.org/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/2587924558_6c5e4b4504_m.jpg" class="alignnone size-full wp-image-978" title="2587924558_6c5e4b4504_m" alt="2587924558_6c5e4b4504_m" width="240" height="240" /></a>If you are persistent enough to get to this stage, the question that would continue to arise from your heart is â€œis it worth it?â€ The business is starting to take off, but unlike you fantasized during the honeymoon phase the business isnâ€™t as easy to run as you thought.Â  You get constantly challenged, and they start to weight your options. You would realize the enormous responsible of being in a relationship and the question keeps haunting you â€œis it worth it?â€ And after a while, the question stops then acceptance. The acceptance that the fantasy you once envisioned during the honeymoon stage didnâ€™t come to fruition, but after all the hardships and all the hard work you realizes that it has been worth it.Â  Every moment has been worth it. You would naturally move to the next stage.</span></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span><strong><span>The Comprehension </span>Stage</strong></span><strong> </strong></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span><span><a href="http://www.dipotepede.org/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/2892058635_da341cba5f.jpg"><img src="http://www.dipotepede.org/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/2892058635_da341cba5f-199x300.jpg" class="alignnone size-medium wp-image-979" title="2892058635_da341cba5f" alt="2892058635_da341cba5f" width="199" height="300" /></a>You now have a good understanding of what it means to be free because you would emerge to a new playing field. If you are in business, you would start to make more profit in a week than most people make in a year.</span> If it is a marriage relationship, you would understand the importance of a spouse and how you can leverage to create the happiness you deserve. You would be on autopilot and you would be on the â€œescape velocityâ€ frame. You would boldly tell guys to join you on this exciting path (well, you did not think it was exciting in the Reality Stage). You would easily forget what you went through to get to where you are and you would have the Midas touch in this particular field.</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span><span>I realized that I have stopped at the Reality Stage for some projects in my life and the successes I have in life is when I transit the Reality Stage. Transiting this stage does not mean doing nothing and expecting to jump to the Judging stage; it requires giving the same thing another shut with an innovative perspective. Most people are deceived by marriage; because people are living together does not mean they are fulfilling the marriage requirement; the marriage may have ended and they are living together due to either children or social pressure. The reality stage is what most guys cannot just get through; they quit and look for another project to keep them from facing the reality and when this other project reaches the reality stage, they also quit. The pattern becomes so eminent that Baba IJEBU seems like the way out. Which particular stage are you? <span> </span><span> </span><span> </span><span> </span></span></span></p>
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		<title>Mastering Achilles Heel</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 02 Aug 2008 03:07:54 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dipo Tepede</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[My first experience with the name Achilles was Brad Pittâ€™s character in Troy; Brad Pitt has always been one of my favorite actors of all time. His display of Achilles in Troy was more than believable but I am not writing to discuss Brad Pitt; I want to share with you what a friend of &#8230; </p><p><a class="more-link block-button" href="http://www.dipotepede.org/2008/08/02/mastering-achilles-heel/">Continue reading &#187;</a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 13pt;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman;">My first experience with the name Achilles was Brad Pittâ€™s character in Troy; Brad Pitt has always been one of my favorite actors of all time. His display of Achilles in Troy was more than believable but I am not writing to discuss Brad Pitt; I want to share with you what a friend of mine shared with me. I want to share with you what I have experience but never put in words or writing. I want to share with you something that may eventually change your life if you adhere to it. This may not be my story but this is a story I am much too familiar with; maybe not the same plot but the same underlying principle. I was really touched by Dr. Ihekwabaâ€™s story that I decided to share it with forward moving individuals like you. This is the story:</span></span></p>
<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 13pt;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman;">Â </span></span></p>
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<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: &quot;Trebuchet MS&quot;,&quot;sans-serif&quot;;">I remember in high school I was pretty rubbish in Science. Letâ€™s just say I was pretty rubbish in most things, but my physics teacher for some reason known only to him believed in me, even with my very poor grades (too ashamed to prefix.. I know ayo, youâ€™d probably try). But he still believed in me. Told me, I was one of his finest, brightest and most inspiring students. Well letâ€™s just say I worked even harder, exhausted my limit, and even though I never got the high grades, he never stopped believing that I could and would. I didnâ€™t make the grade I needed to study the course of my choice at university level, but I still got into uni, and never forgetting the belief â€œMr. Bancroftâ€ had in me, I worked like there was no tomorrow. In the end I made a First class honours, but when I went back to my high school to tell Mr. Bancroft that I made it, that I made a First in Pharm. sci, majored in Organic and Medicinal chem., he was no longer working in the school or was he around to see the seed he had sown all those years ago germinate and bloom. He had retired for health reasons. I was never able to tell him, that because of the way he believed <span style="color: #339966;">that I could soar like an eagle, that the sky was the limit that was attainable to me, that regardless of what circumstance, difficulty, ill equipped as I was, that the light at the end of tunnel was a destination I could get to</span>. I was immediately offered two â€˜jointâ€™ scholarships (one from Pfizer and the other from BBSRC) to study for my Ph.D immediately after uni, and received my Ph.D by the age of 25. I think this is a pretty good achievement for an â€œF gradeâ€ student..lol.. </span><span style="font-size: 11pt;"></span></p>
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<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: &quot;Trebuchet MS&quot;,&quot;sans-serif&quot;;">The Lord did use Mr. Bancroft to spur me on, but what if there wasnâ€™t a Mr. Bancroft, to remember there will always be God. He is forever by our side willing us to try just that bit harder. The Lord who created us, who has already gifted us, the ability and all the necessary skills to get to the finishing line. The thing is we need to have it always in our fore mind that He is always there encouraging us that we can, and we will get there. Never to forget that if no one believes in you, the fact that God believes in you is all you need. That you have been created for greatness, to be the head, to be rulers, you are royalty, to be able to tell the difference between whatâ€™s fake and whatâ€™s real. To remember that the people you surround yourself with must agree in your ability to attain greatness. That anybody who tears you down, or talks about your negative qualities, does not deserve to stand with you. If Mr. Bancroft had gone on and on about my â€œFâ€ status, and how he saw no future in my â€œFâ€ (Failure) being transformed to â€œFâ€ (First class) then I doubt I would have believed that I could. I am here to tell you; â€œNever settle for less. Never settle for mediocrity, never settle for ok. Never settle for quitters. You are created in the image of God, and He is not a quitter.â€ </span><span style="font-size: 11pt;"></span></p>
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<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: &quot;Trebuchet MS&quot;,&quot;sans-serif&quot;;">I was not able to thank Mr. Bancroft, but like the Ten lepers healed by Jesus, if no one comes back to thank Jesus for what Heâ€™s done for them, I would like to be that one that came back to thank Him. To always be in an attitude of thanks. I know now that the Lord used Mr. Bancroft to will me on to the finishing line of academia, and for this Lord I thank you. If I had believed in my then current situation in high school, I probably would not have become a Fellow of science, a faculty staff and an academic working for Microsoft research supervising Masters and Ph.D students within 3 yrs of my graduation. But I stress on believing that I can and will. You might have been called all manner of names, rejected, have had to overcome one hurdle or another on your way to the finishing line, but one thing I know is that you have been called: </span><em><span style="font-size: 11pt; color: green; font-family: &quot;Trebuchet MS&quot;,&quot;sans-serif&quot;; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;" lang="EN-GB">CHOSEN, HIS, BELOVED, SOUGHT AFTER, FRIEND, Great man/woman, man/woman after Godâ€™s own heart, Friend of God</span></em><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: &quot;Trebuchet MS&quot;,&quot;sans-serif&quot;;">. That your life is not in the hands of any ordinary man, but you have been ingrained in the palm of Godâ€™s hands. I no longer believe in the FACT, I only know the Truth. And the simple truth is that I have been created for my life to bring Glory to God. And whatever point I am in my life I can only get better, the direction can only be upwards. </span><span style="font-size: 11pt;"></span></p>
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<p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: &quot;Trebuchet MS&quot;,&quot;sans-serif&quot;;">So I challenge you all, will you continue to let the shadows of your past failures, shame, unfruitfulness continue to chase you or will you make a stand for it and choose to see past, the Fact, and strive on until the Truth manifests in your life. What will your legacy be? The choice is really up to you. </span><span style="font-size: 11pt;"></span></p>
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		<title>JACOBs CROSS</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 28 Jun 2008 06:01:07 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dipo Tepede</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Do you know the greatest challenge we have as humans? I want you to seriously think about it and give yourself some moment away from your work station to really reflect on this. Every time I think of this challenge, I think of Jacob. Jacob is the regular guy from the bible who upon facing &#8230; </p><p><a class="more-link block-button" href="http://www.dipotepede.org/2008/06/28/jacobs-cross/">Continue reading &#187;</a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;,&quot;serif&quot;;">Do you know the greatest challenge we have as humans? I want you to seriously think about it and give yourself some moment away from your work station to really reflect on this. Every time I think of this challenge, I think of Jacob. Jacob is the regular guy from the bible who upon facing this basic human challenge was able to rebrand himself from Jacob to Israel. Jacob left his fatherâ€™s house with nothing and returned with 2 wives, 2 concubines, 11 children and a massive wealth and economic portfolio. Though it took him 20 years to achieve this result, he achieved it nonetheless after overcoming this basic human hindrance.</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;,&quot;serif&quot;;">In this contemporary time, we would say Jacob lived a Jewish dream just like most young men in Nigeria leave their fatherâ€™s house or fatherâ€™s country to seek for their Nigerian dream. Every dream has an economic imprint to it; the dream then becomes more substantiated if the person attained this economical progress through doing what he truly enjoys doing. Jay Jay Okocha is a living proof of a true Nigerian dream and was honored for it 2 days ago with a novel match. Not all dreams are accompanied with fame but you can imagine Okocha doing what some people consider as a hobby and making economic progress with it.</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;,&quot;serif&quot;;">If we look deep to what we consider as a hobby, therein lies what we truly enjoy doing. What we truly enjoy doing is thus not necessary a sequential or regulated task we must accomplish in order to get emolument but a state of euphoria and joy when we tackle a project. This state of euphoria and joy is thus a state of being our true selves. The greatest challenge we have as human being is being our true selves. It is difficult for most people to discover their identity and align themselves to it. Some people are able to discover who they are but the difficulty lies in staying true to who they are.</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;,&quot;serif&quot;;">Doing what you truly enjoy doing is your creative self expression; it is being who you are truly designed to be; it is where your unlimited power is tapped from; it is a life of freedom â€“ a life where possibilities overrides limitations. Itâ€™s a state that can be intuitively recognized and guided by deep rooted desire. Pablo Picasso â€“ a foremost painter/artist â€“ gives us a hint into what it is like to align ourselves to our true nature: <span> </span><span> </span></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;,&quot;serif&quot;;">â€œI donâ€™t know in advance what I am going to put on canvass anymore than I decide before hand what color I am going to use.<span> </span>While I am working, I am not conscious of what I am putting on the canvass. Each time I undertake to paint a picture, I have a sensation of leaping into space; I never know whether I shall fall on my feet. It is only later that I begin to estimate more exactly the effect of my workâ€</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;,&quot;serif&quot;;">Just like Pablo Picasso mentioned above; whenever he wants to do what he truly enjoys doing, he is not conscious of the outcome and he leaps into space. Pablo Picasso is not governed by time but the possibility of his accomplishments. The time space continuum seizes to exist when you are in the flow of your true nature. Have you ever been involved in a task that you lost track of the time; you were literarily dragged away from it. It is like a deep sleep where you are not conscious of the environment. If you have ever been â€œin loveâ€ with a lady/man; you will understand this state of being your true self.</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;,&quot;serif&quot;;">Look at Jay Jay Okocha; you can see the smile in his face when he loses an important direct kick and we can attest to his ability to experiment on the field of play. No matter how serious the match is, Jay Jay would always align to his true self. Jay jayâ€™s true self is not football like most people describe their true self by what they do. When I hear someone say â€œI am born to be a doctor or I am a diehard writerâ€; I canâ€™t help but smile at such ignorance because those profession or career line are simply a platform of expression. Jay Jay is a creative personality who can express his creativity best in the profession of football. </span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;,&quot;serif&quot;;">This is the cross that we mostly donâ€™t understand because Jay Jay expresses himself best in football does not mean he is born a footballer. If Jay Jay was born into a home filled with academia, Jay Jay may have been professional writer authoring many text books; his environment played a big role in his platform of expression. This is where the concept of providence comes to play; God places us in an environment because God believes that environment would align us to our true self expression. While most people have blamed their environment for their lack of success, others have used their environment as a fulcrum of success.</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;,&quot;serif&quot;;">The Williams sisters are tennis champions because of their African American heritage; this should ordinarily be a hindrance to tennis championship but it is what drove them to be extraordinary. If Mandela was born in the United States, I am sure the world would not be celebrating his 90 years birthday. Mahatma Gandhi became legendary because he was an Indian citizen. Our true self and finding the best place to express our true self lies in the environment we find our self.</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;,&quot;serif&quot;;">So many people extol my writing prowess and I tell those who care to listen that I am not such a great writer; I simply write as a platform of expression. I know my writing skill have improved a lot from when I started putting time and energy into writing; for my professor in school to recommend my paper to the Swedish Environmental Board, I definitely know I have improved my writing considerably. I was not always good in writing in fact writing was my Achilles heel; most courses I did not do well in my undergraduate days was because I could not construct words properly. I used to loathe anything that has to do with writing but now writing is a platform to express my growth passion and love for empowerment.</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;,&quot;serif&quot;;">This is the foundation of Jacobâ€™s cross; expressing who you are in a dedicated platform. Jacob was a blessed man; whichever platform he engaged in, he was going to do the unfathomable. His partnership with his uncle Laban will give us insight into how to succeed financially in an uphill world. Jacob was already skilled in the arts of taking care of sheep before getting to his uncles house. His uncle noticed his good works and offered to pay him for it. Jacob instead demanded to work 7 years for his uncleâ€™s daughter Rachel. In working for any organization, working for time will never make you financially free especially if your aim is to have one position or the other like Manager, Senior Manager, etc.</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;,&quot;serif&quot;;">Jacobâ€™s aim was Rachel and just like any other entrepreneur; they never live up to their promises until you give them more of your time. They dangle another offer your way, keeping you from your dream offer in order to buy more of your time. Jacob worked 14 years to secure his dream position and after attaining this dream, he was still financially impoverished. I can imagine many people who have waited longer than expected for promotions, salary raise, official car, etc and they keep getting disappointed. As they keep praying and waiting for this position, time is going and they gain nothing from it.</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;,&quot;serif&quot;;">After Jacob attained the position he was looking for, he realized he had been chasing the wind. 14 years of his life slaving for someone without knowing who he was. Jacob decided to leave the organization and see what Laban the entrepreneur said â€œI will pay you more money for your time.â€ I have seen so many people stick to an organization because the entrepreneur is paying them more money. They know they are no longer aligned to the organization and their spirit and soul is no longer in the work but they stay because of the promise of more money.</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;,&quot;serif&quot;;">Laban said something to Jacob that woke him up and made him understand who he truly was: â€œfor a fortune teller that I consulted told me that many blessings I have been enjoying are all because of your being here. How much of a raise do you need to get you stay? Whatever it is, I will pay it.â€ This was news to Jacob just like most people in this world do not know their worth. He realized he was pivotal to the success of Laban but he should ordinarily have known this since he received the power of success from his father.</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;,&quot;serif&quot;;">Understanding who you are and aligning yourself to it is the greatest good you can do to humanity. You encourage others who are afraid to take this path to do it. You will be able to <a title="fire your boss" href="http://www.dipotepede.org/2008/06/06/fire-your-boss/" target="_blank">FIRE YOUR BOSS</a> by getting the proper respect you deserve. You will be able to make right judgments in investments and other important matter. I know money is a big factor that hinders people from being who they were designed to be but listen to what a billionaire film producer said; â€œAnyone who thinks money will make him happy hasnâ€™t got money; happy is harder than money.â€ I will end this particular message with what Steve Jobs (billionaire founder of Apple Computers) said:</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;,&quot;serif&quot;;">â€œFor the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: if today were the last day of my life, would I do what I am about to do today? And whenever the answer has been no for too many days in a row, I know I need to change somethingâ€</span></p>
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		<title>The Money Tonic</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 15 Mar 2008 05:19:32 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Present Location: Airport, lounging and waiting for my flight to be announced. I have got so many things on my mind but the major one was the private bond I was suppose to invest in which was suppose to give me a 96% return in 12 months payable on a monthly basis and full capital &#8230; </p><p><a class="more-link block-button" href="http://www.dipotepede.org/2008/03/15/the-money-tonic/">Continue reading &#187;</a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';">Present Location: Airport, lounging and waiting for my flight to be announced. I have got so many things on my mind but the major one was the private bond I was suppose to invest in which was suppose to give me a 96% return in 12 months payable on a monthly basis and full capital liquidated on the twelfth month. I hate missing out on great opportunities especially the ones that I can grasp with both hands. The challenge is how I am going to get to the bank and transfer the money, when my flight is scheduled in the next two hours. I did not want to take the chances of getting to the bank because the bank that maintains my domiciliary account is not anywhere close to the airport so I took solace in bringing you this particular piece hoping my battery would not run out. </span></p>
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<p><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';">Whenever I feel under siege of various challenges needing my attention, I try to suspend the present realities and move to something less tasking like reading and writing. The advice given by management books is to make your choice graduating the task with the highest priority but how do I define the highest priority when everything is top notch priority. Steven Covey would say the highest priority is the one that is relational in nature (the one that when you die, you would be glad that&#8217;s the one you tackled). The truth is I get confused with all these books that I just go for time sensitive ones like my MBA assignment that I was meant to be submitted today. This particular task stole my nights for me to complete reading journals upon journals, books upon books and papers upon papers in order to complete. This Swedish people would not kill me with all these assignments where you cannot escape engaging your intellect if you want to pass. For all those guys that have been sending me mails on how to apply successfully to Swedish schools, POeTSolvers would be organizing a free seminar for all its members in April on 100% guaranteed successful application into Swedish Schools and tips on obtaining residence permit. You may read Maxim&#8217;s write-up on Studying Abroad from POeTSolvers Article Conference to get you started. </span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';"> </span><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';">Apart from this bond investment worries, the journey I have at hand is not particularly a jolly one (no lounging in the Jacuzzi, no massage therapy, no tourism activity, etc); all the 25 days have been booked for one meeting or the other from Dubai, Hong Kong and China. Well, this is going to be my first time in China and I am looking forward to it; I would be visiting 4 different states; Guangzhou, Shenzhen, Shanghai and Chongqing. I have been surveying my Google map in order to accomplish these visits and learning a bit of Mandarin to get me by. Every time I do these travels especial the business ones I wonder why I even bother; okay maybe I love travelling and globetrotting or maybe I am seeing another opportunity I cannot pass by. I seriously cannot fully resolve this leaning of mine but at the heart of it, there is definitely something that makes me happy to be doing it.</span><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';"> </span><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';"><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';"> </span></span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';"> </span><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';"><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';">Now, back to prioritizing my challenges/tasks; when I was a fully paid employee, prioritizing was not a big deal. My priority was God, family and Job; every other thing did not really matter if I could not get them done. I was not bothered if I read or socialized but now everything seem to matter; you have got to read, you have got to network, you have got to research, attend to business matters, sleep late, wake-up early, meditate all through the day on best methodology and process, spend time with wife and daughter, etc. I believe its huge work to be on your own unlike when someone is paying for your time but its better. I have come to the crossroad like Neo in the Matrix choosing between the red and blue pill but there is one particular statement that keeps coming to my mind; they were the words of Trinity; you have been on that path before Neo, you know everything about it. I sure know everything about being a loyal employee though it is not much of a work and hassle compared to self-employment, I am too sure it would not make me &#8220;<strong>the one&#8221;</strong></span></span></p>
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<p><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';">In order to increase my leverage opportunities, I practically read my own write-ups on this blog sometimes and wonder the gulf between my write-ups and my doings. I wonder if I am the one that wrote them or someone else because the wisdom in them are quite revealing so I decided to practice some of them. One of the one that caught my attention was &#8220;<a title="latent investment" href="http://www.dipotepede.org/2008/01/17/5-latent-investment-leverages-revealed/" target="_blank">5 LATENT INVESTMENT LEVERAGES REVEALED</a>&#8220;; I decided to shape my life through my tongue so I wrote down some important money desires to confess everyday for the next 30 days to see the impact. I called them the MONEY TONIC; you are welcome to join me in this revealing exercise;</span></p>
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<p><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';"> </span><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';"><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';"><span>1.<span style="font: 7pt 'Times New Roman';"> </span></span></span><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';">I attract money easily</span></span></p>
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<p><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';"> </span><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';"><span>2.<span style="font: 7pt 'Times New Roman';"> </span></span></span><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';">I have more money coming in than going out.</span></p>
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<p><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';"> </span><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';"><span>3.<span style="font: 7pt 'Times New Roman';"> </span></span></span><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';">I spend money wisely and comfortable</span></p>
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<p><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';"> </span><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';"><span>4.<span style="font: 7pt 'Times New Roman';"> </span></span></span><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';">I am open and receptive to new avenues of income</span></p>
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<p><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';"> </span><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';"><span>5.</span></span><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';">Money is my friend; I enjoy my experience with money</span></p>
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<p><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';"> </span><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';"><span>6.<span style="font: 7pt 'Times New Roman';"> </span></span></span><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';">I am comfortable with large sums of money</span></p>
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<p><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';"> </span><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';"><span>7.<span style="font: 7pt 'Times New Roman';"> </span></span></span><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';">I am using money to bless my life and the lives of others</span></p>
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<p><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';"> </span><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';"><span>9.</span></span><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';">I am a money magnet and I attract more and more every day.</span></p>
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<p><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';"><span>10.<span style="font: 7pt 'Times New Roman';"> </span></span></span><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';">I am worthy and I deserve large sums of money.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';"><span>11.<span style="font: 7pt 'Times New Roman';"> </span></span></span><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';">I am consciously rejoicing and I bless the good fortune of everyone.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';"><span>12.<span style="font: 7pt 'Times New Roman';"> </span></span></span><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';">I am grateful for everything I have in my life right now.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';"><span>13.<span style="font: 7pt 'Times New Roman';"> </span></span></span><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';">I am free of all debt; I am already rich.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';"><span>14.<span style="font: 7pt 'Times New Roman';"> </span></span></span><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';">I am creating large sums of money and money flows into my life easily.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';"><span>15.<span style="font: 7pt 'Times New Roman';"> </span></span></span><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';">I spend money with integrity and I am generous with it because I know there is plenty for others and for me.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';"><span>16.<span style="font: 7pt 'Times New Roman';"> </span></span></span><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%;">I am attracting </span><span style="font-size: 17px;">like-minded</span><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%;"> people to help me fulfill my desires.</span></span></span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';"><span>17.<span style="font: 7pt 'Times New Roman';"> </span></span></span><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';">As I ask for what I want, I allow the universe orchestrate it and bring what I ask for.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 17px;">I have to board the plane now; see those that registered for the &#8220;Invest in Gold&#8221; Training in April though there have been a lot of reservation but the seats are not filled yet (payment secures your seat). Before the training, I would definitely have a lot of things to share with you. Thank you for reading&#8230;.</span></p>
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		<title>GUARANTEED RETURNS</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 25 Jan 2008 06:39:08 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing. To keep our faces toward change and behave like free spirits in the &#8230; </p><p><a class="more-link block-button" href="http://www.dipotepede.org/2008/01/25/guaranteed-returns/">Continue reading &#187;</a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';">&#8220;Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing. To keep our faces toward change and behave like free spirits in the presence of fate is strength undefeatable&#8221; </span><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';">- Helen Keller</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';">Remember, my motivation was to have something doing while waiting for JAMB result and apparently going to the university so I entered an unchartered region in my life with no-money motivation except to create something I could be proud of. Let me spare you my merchandizing tactics; the business was an instant hit in my neighborhood and all the teenagers and youths in the environment came from far and near to play snooker in my compound for a unique price of ten naira. In two weeks, my brother had recovered his money and immediately recognized the business opportunity so he cut a deal to give me 20% of the profit (what can I say? He is human). I took it knowing what my motivations were and I maintained the momentum of the business with competitions, promotions and strong interpersonal relationship. All the strategy for running this business was inside of me; neither did I read a book nor did I train under any business man to execute this apparent successful strategy.</span></p>
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<p><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';">When I look back and think of all the expensive training I have done in business (customer service, pricing, competitive advantage, supply chain management, etc) from my former companies; I can&#8217;t help but laugh at the share waste of money. If I had known all these knowledge intuitively in a passion to create a successful business, then I must explore the inner workings of myself today. This leads to the topic at hand; the topic at hand is guaranteed returns. Everybody wants guaranteed returns on anything they invest in but from experience I realize that you can never get a guaranteed return. Let me expatiate: I started this write-up with the snooker business where it became an instant success but I failed to tell you how the business was faring before I finally took off to the university. After 2 months into the snooker business, there was a huge drought; people stop coming for what I could not place my fingers on. Every attempt I made to revive the business did not bring the usual traffic and I saw myself selling myself short in order to maintain the business; reduce prices, beg people to play, etc.</span><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';"> </span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';">Sheik Zayed was a man of history; he was the first president of the United Arab Emirates (UAE) and one of the rulers of Abu Dhabi (Capital of UAE). His impact in UAE gained him the name the father of the Emirates Nation and he truly deserves it by turning a country filled with tents, camel and desert into a metropolitan city filled with modern houses, computers and cars. It is noteworthy to understand the history and culture of the United Arab Emirates and to fully appreciate the efforts he took to turn the country around. For all those seeking to be financial independence; it is very vital to study this great mind that change the destiny of his people and made them a model nation to emulate. UAE comprises 7 independent states namely; Abu Dhabi, Dubai, Sharjah, Umm Al Qaiwain, Ajman, Fujairah and Ras al Khaimah. Each state has its own laws and rulers but in 1971, Sheik Zayed who was the ruler of Abu Dhabi at that time convinced the 6 other states to form a federation to enhance security.</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';">It is your uniqueness that would give you leverages to guarantee your returns. I have learnt this from personal experience but Sheik Zayed confirmed this through his art of keeping the tradition of the states despite variety of influences. UAE never adopted Democracy, Monarchy or any style of political maneuvers but it maintained its ruler ship style to guide his country to glory. His first exposure from the desert was his trip to Europe in 1953 where he learned what to adopt and what not to; he was the first to build a school in Abu Dhabi after arriving from Europe using his own finances not the finances of the state because his brother Sheik Shakhbut was the ruler at that time. He knew that he needed education for power but kept his tradition.</span></p>
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<p><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';">&#8220;Two are better than one because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up his companion but woe to him who is alone when he falls for he has no one to help him up. Again if two lie together, they will keep warm but how can one be warm alone? Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him. And a threefold cord is not easily broken&#8221; &#8211; Ecclesiastes 4: 9-12 (NKJV)</span></p>
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<p><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';">Although Marketing is the pricing, promotion and distribution of products/services, it is so subtle that most people miss the strategic intent that is inherent in marketing that simply giving part of your resources to aid your fellow neighbor is marketing &#8211;  Dipo Tepede</span></p>
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<p><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';">Sheik Zayed understood what would preserve his nation from collapsing and being under siege from his neighboring country, he simply gave 28% of Abu Dhabi&#8217;s income for the assistance of Arab Islamic and developing countries to keep them in good relationship with his country. It is only the wise that understands the subtlety that Sheik Zayed employed in order to guarantee his investment. </span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';">This is a crucial lesson to all ardent investor who place their investment in states where their neighbors are impoverished. Giving some part of your returns to elevate those around you is a marketing strategy with the intent to guaranteeing your investment. But given off your returns is not the only marketing strategy there is, the ability to devise a plan to sustain your return is marketing like hedging which is a means of guarding against financial loss.</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';">Sheik Zayed has the ability of convincing other nations to buy into his ideas by condemning all use of violence in the name of religion. He was also able to openly reject all links to terrorism and publicly ask the leaders of Iraq to step down and go into exile to avoid war. He was able to project UAE as a country of peace which was good grounds for economic activities. His power to convince his fellow independent states were expressed when the governing council comprising the 7 independent Emirates State leaders elected him 5 times to rule them (voting by the 7 State leaders takes place every 5 years).</span></p>
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<p><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif';">Can you imagine that a man was asked to lead for 38 years when the other 6 state leaders had the chance to be at the helms of affair? This is the power of sales and it is very useful especially in investment even if the investment does not involve sales. Convincing people to join your investment vehicle sustain that investment. All investment vehicles are premised on people, if people do not patronize them the investment would fail. Imagine the share price of a company shoots so high and you have nobody to sell it to, it&#8217;s a waste of time. In fact the rise and fall of share price depends on demand and supply. Is it property? You need to sell it well to make maximum returns.</span></p>
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		<title>Giving yourself some credit?</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Giving yourself some credit? I had some pretty good news recently- I wrote an exam and I did ok. Quickly I rushed off the emails and texts, sharing my joy with my friends. The message wasnâ€™t quite the archetypal Nigerian text/Email a la- â€œCome rejoice with me and my familyâ€™ etc but close. It went &#8230; </p><p><a class="more-link block-button" href="http://www.dipotepede.org/2007/10/05/giving-yourself-some-credit/">Continue reading &#187;</a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong><font face="Times New Roman">Giving yourself some credit?</font></strong></p>
<p><font face="Times New Roman">I had some pretty good news recently- I wrote an exam and I did ok.</font></p>
<p><font face="Times New Roman">Quickly I rushed off the emails and texts, sharing my joy with my friends.  The message wasnâ€™t quite the archetypal Nigerian text/Email a la-<em> </em>â€œ<em>Come rejoice with me and my familyâ€™ </em>etc but close. It went something like-<em>â€˜Results are out. Iâ€™m grateful to Godâ€™</em> etc. </font></p>
<p><font face="Times New Roman">Almost every one I sent it to simply said, <em>â€˜oh, thank Godâ€™ </em>or something as â€˜seemingâ€™- a fellow man/womanâ€™s recognition of the favoured â€˜handâ€™ of Supreme Being in this little womanâ€™s business. I was calm, pleased, <em>grateful</em> that <em>â€˜He deemed me fit to have done wellâ€™ </em>etc.</font></p>
<p><font face="Times New Roman">Soon I felt a bit mischievous so I sent a similar but more elaborately crafted text to an agnostic friend of mine. </font></p>
<p><font face="Times New Roman">I tried to keep my face straight and waited.</font></p>
<p><font face="Times New Roman">The reaction came as quick and as precise as I thought it would &#8211; <em>â€œYou should take some of the credit yourselfâ€.</em></font></p>
<p><font face="Times New Roman">The drama-queen eyes in me went on the overdrive, willing them to <em>unread </em>the words in front of me. The coordinate inner-voice (which is a nice way of saying I talk to myself, <em>too</em>) screamed â€œBlasphemy! Irreverence! Sacrilege! (<em>Insert</em> <em>other suitable synonyms</em>!!!) </font></p>
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<p><font face="Times New Roman">If you are a member of the Nigerian religious society (automatic membership for Nigerians and most people who live in Nigeria), youâ€™ll know that â€˜Godâ€™ is the omnibus reason for almost everything that happens- Corruption-induced riches are due to the <em>Glory of God</em>, rigged-in politicians give God the glory, and <em>â€˜God is goodâ€™ </em>heralds all â€˜testimoniesâ€™, that could have been averted by better planning. The disadvantage of the office is that â€˜Godâ€™ also takes the blame for chaos caused by careless driving, legal punishment for wrong done and every riot, flood, or disaster we experience.</font></p>
<p><font face="Times New Roman">I guess itâ€™s easy to feign modesty and ascribe what my friend will consider hard work to an unseen Entity. In fact, it seems win-win: you get off as being humble in a â€˜giftedâ€™ way. Like <em>â€˜Oh, I really didnâ€™t deserve it but you know We (speaker and God), go way backâ€¦ then again, Iâ€™ve always had his unlisted numberâ€™</em>. </font></p>
<p><font face="Times New Roman">Sometimes, understanding Godâ€™s â€˜intrusionâ€™ in Manâ€™s affairs can be a bit of a trick. For one, unlike the plant that must grow where itâ€™s planted, or the animal that is perceived to be led by its instincts, humans have a choice issue. I use â€˜issueâ€™ carefully because choice on its own is a lot of responsibility. Decisions are always harder when you can <u>choose</u>- any woman will agree<em>- the pink-chequered shirt with the white belt or the baby blue one on the deep blue jeans etc</em>. Worse still, choices are based on what we <em>think </em>is right, that is eventually based on what we <em>know </em>or <em>think</em> we know<em> </em>and things around us. Yet, we are stuck with having to decide on our own- when <u>S</u>omeone who knows all things can simply make the decision.</font></p>
<p><font face="Times New Roman">Do we always earn our accomplishments? How do we explain cases where doing the right stuff ends up with awful consequences?  How do we explain when some people get results so easily while others have to <em>strive</em> for theirs.</font></p>
<p><font face="Times New Roman">Iâ€™m not done with understanding a lot of these. There are a few things â€˜m sure of- one of them is that all the diligent studying, burning at candles at both ends <em>do </em>pay off, just like in life when you strive in your own way to make a mark. But there times when they donâ€™t matter that you did- when you lit the candle while others were asleep, that you were diligent, that you did all the right things, that you did right by othersâ€¦</font></p>
<p><font face="Times New Roman">Accidents happen, people <em>will</em> mess up, and sometimes we make it worse with choices to concentrate on the un-needful. </font></p>
<p><font face="Times New Roman">What I know is that <em>my</em> God makes up for those accidents and all, because I asked him to. </font></p>
<p><font face="Times New Roman">Or maybe Iâ€™m all just <em>too</em> Nigerian.</font></p>
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<p><font face="Times New Roman">P.S:</font></p>
<p><font face="Times New Roman">How did I <em>really</em> feel when I received my friendâ€™s message?</font></p>
<p><font face="Times New Roman">I smiled. I was amused for two reasons-</font></p>
<p><font face="Times New Roman">One, I was right about him.</font></p>
<p><font face="Times New Roman">Two, the credit was barely mine and I am actually <em>very grateful</em>.</font></p>
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		<title>Ladies Only!  What a Dilema?</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 14 May 2007 14:03:00 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Miss Rachel came to my office the other day. One of those wet Lagos evenings. Heavy rain and everyone was trapped as it was rumoured that the 3rd Mainland Bridge was jammed or it had collapsed, many remained on the Island late or found other ways across to the Mainland. Miss Rachel looked seriously worried. &#8230; </p><p><a class="more-link block-button" href="http://www.dipotepede.org/2007/05/14/ladies-only-what-a-dilema/">Continue reading &#187;</a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="border-right: #e1d4c0 4.5pt solid; padding-right: 0in; border-top: #e1d4c0 1pt solid; padding-left: 0in; background: white; padding-bottom: 9pt; margin-left: 0.5in; border-left: #e1d4c0 4.5pt solid; margin-right: 0in; padding-top: 0in; border-bottom: #cccccc 1pt solid"><span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'">Miss Rachel came to my office the other day. One of those wet </span><city></p>
<place><span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'">Lagos</span></place></city><span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'"> evenings. Heavy rain and everyone was trapped as it was rumoured that the 3rd </span></p>
<place>
<placename><span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'">Mainland</span></placename><span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'"> </span></p>
<placetype><span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'">Bridge</span></placetype></place><span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'"> was jammed or it had collapsed, many remained on the </span></p>
<place><span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'">Island</span></place><span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'"> late or found other ways across to the Mainland.</p>
<p>Miss Rachel looked seriously worried. It was not the rain or that she did not know her way home. She has a car like most up and coming </span><city></p>
<place><span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'">Lagos</span></place></city><span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'"> girls and the car was working.</p>
<p>She has a problem.</p>
<p>You see, Miss Rachel is at the prime of her life. You know, that age when every woman thinks she should be married with children as that female Big Ben was constantly chiming away. Making loud rumbling grumbles about inactivity and lack of optimization.</p>
<p>Along with this, there is the family matter. Pressures and reminders that the Big Ben is there and the younger ones need a leader in this population contribution business. Pressures from friends whose weddings, naming ceremonies and engagements make up Miss Rachelâ€™s weekends in </span><city></p>
<place><span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'">Lagos</span></place></city><span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'">.</p>
<p>Miss Rachel wants a lot in her life. In fact, she has a lot in her life. A steady boyfriend she has been hoping to marry for a long time. A good job. A car. Many friends. The sadness in Miss Rachel is from being trapped between a rock and a hard place.</p>
<p>She depends on this good job. She caters for herself and her needs and contributes her fair share to the family upkeep budget. Life could not be better settled.</p>
<p>But my colleague A.S. is the problem.</p>
<p>You see, he is an internationally acclaimed banker. He has worked all over the world. When he arrived as one of those janded boys in our company, every young lady, as most do in </span><city></p>
<place><span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'">Lagos</span></place></city><span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'">, was eyeing him. The prospects of getting â€˜closeâ€™ to him so that â€˜favorâ€™ can be granted sometimes because of his position. After getting tired of counting money, A.S. came to our company to count people. He is our top man in H.R. Good Salary. Good Benefits. Close to the Boss. Wife and Children.</p>
<p>But he wants Miss Rachel.</p>
<p>The tactic is to pressure a lady to submission. The pressure starts with extending the hand of friendship. A â€˜friendâ€™ to talk to on work matters. A shoulder to cry on if you need one. A little financial help here and there. â€˜Appointmentâ€™ as the &#8220;my eyes and ears&#8221;.</p>
<p>To a growing professional, this is the â€˜idealâ€™ position to have in a company. So when A.S. calls a late evening â€˜meetingâ€™ at the other quiet building Miss Rachel is invited. There are other people there. Outside clients. Contractors. Guests of the company. It is a business review session. The first one goes well. Everyone is happy. This has to become a regular fixture in the business calendar. And the next one. And the next one.</p>
<p>But A.S. has his eyes and other things on Miss Rachel.</p>
<p>Miss Rachel has her eyes on her future. Husband. Children. Good House. Good Car. Good Job. Her ally in the company is A.S. A top executive who can â€˜assistâ€™ her progress. A â€˜friendâ€™. A good man with honor and integrity. The type she hopes she will marry soon. Yes, soon as her boyfriend has the same qualities.</p>
<p>She has been with our company for 4 years. She has worked hard. She has been available when others have not. She will stay late to impress and will do her work diligently. So much so that some of the other HoDs will ask for her to do work for them as they do not have capable and committed staff. Everyone knows her here as Miss I Too Do. She likes this job.</p>
<p>Gifts from trips abroad for dedication to work. Financial Assistance from time to time. A little allowance for the weekend. Her â€˜newâ€™ </span></p>
<place><span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'">Mont Blanc</span></place><span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'"> pen. The Catwoman sunglasses. A bag to match her dress for her friendâ€™s wedding. This is not a problem as A.S. is a â€˜friendâ€™.</p>
<p>Then the â€˜requestsâ€™.<br />
â€œLets have a drinkâ€,<br />
â€œNo need to rush homeâ€,<br />
â€œHave you eaten at that Chinese restaurant near Eko Hotel?â€,<br />
â€œWhy donâ€™t you come in earlier so we can go over this reports?â€.</p>
<p>It all seemed so innocent.</p>
<p>Miss Rachel was happy to be useful to a boss. Afterall, he is the H.R. oga. Can move her progress faster. Better position. Better salary. She can afford more and do the things she wants. To help her family. Her friends. Even her relationship. She enjoys her work. It is her life. It is her future.</p>
<p>Not anymore.</p>
<p>A.S. has come again. Promises of promotion. Promises of taking her on trips abroad. Promises of leaving his wife. Promises of giving anything she wants. She just has to be his â€˜Babyâ€™.</p>
<p>â€œBaby? â€œ<br />
â€œAt this age? â€œ<br />
â€œAh! She cant be anybodyâ€™s baby o! â€œ</p>
<p>â€œWait! What king of baby?â€<br />
â€œThat kind?â€<br />
â€œWith the prospects of a good future with her boyfriend? â€œ<br />
â€œOh God!â€<br />
â€œBut the other day you saidâ€¦â€</p>
<p>Miss Rachel has dignity. She cannot be anybodyâ€™s baby at her age. She has worked hard and knows what she deserves. She has earned it!</p>
<p>But wait a minute.</p>
<p>â€œWhat if A.S. arranges for her to lose her job?â€<br />
â€œWhat if she has no job?â€<br />
â€œHow can she cope without this lifesaver?â€<br />
â€œHer boyfriend. Loyal, loving boyfriend.â€</p>
<p>What is a girl to do?</p>
<p>â€œIf nobody knowsâ€<br />
â€œJust onceâ€<br />
â€œLet him have this and he promises to deliverâ€<br />
â€œI will cleanse myself in church after this one timeâ€<br />
â€œPastor said to fast and pray for forgiveness when we do wrongâ€<br />
â€œI think he can keep it quietâ€<br />
â€œI will get the promotion and move to a new job for better payâ€<br />
â€œIt will pass and I will forget, boyfriend will not knowâ€</p>
<p>Then the first time.</p>
<p>â€œOh God!â€<br />
â€œWhat is this?â€<br />
â€œWhat have I done?â€</p>
<p>Then the second time.</p>
<p>â€œOh God!â€<br />
â€œI am dirty!â€<br />
â€œI hate myselfâ€<br />
â€œPlease, nobody should knowâ€</p>
<p>The next time?</p>
<p>Miss Rachel was scared! Everybody at work is looking at her somehow. Those ones were whispering. Her colleagues begin to seem quiet. They donâ€™t talk anymore? No sister gossip?</p>
<p>That look.<br />
That up and down look.<br />
â€œDid that one just look at me like that?â€<br />
â€œDoes anybody know?â€</p>
<p>That Trip.<br />
That late â€˜workingâ€™ night.<br />
That Party.</p>
<p>And A.S.?</p>
<p>He comes to our building often. Always stops by to say hello. A big smile on his face. Happy to be here. Even his fellow ogas say hello. He talks too much.</p>
<p>Then suddenly it all stops.</p>
<p>No Smiles.<br />
No Gifts.<br />
No late â€˜reviewâ€™ meetings.</p>
<p>â€œMaybe it is the problem with the authorities. â€œ<br />
â€œMaybe it is the pressure as oga kpata kpata is â€˜awayâ€™â€.<br />
â€œMaybe.â€</p>
<p>Miss Rachel broke down in my office.</p>
<p>â€œPlease. Please Miss Rachel donâ€™t cry so loud before they think something is wrongâ€<br />
â€œWhat is the problem now?â€<br />
â€œWhat do you want to do?â€</p>
<p>She feels trapped.</p>
<p>No Promotion.<br />
No Salary increase.<br />
She canâ€™t resign as she needs this job.<br />
Her boyfriend is there.<br />
She canâ€™t face him.<br />
One day he will know.<br />
But she loves him.<br />
What about her future?<br />
What about Big Ben?<br />
Where can she run?<br />
How can she hide?<br />
Who can she tell?</p>
<p>What kind of life is this?<br />
Living a lie.<br />
Just when everything is looking well.</p>
<p>â€œShe must run.â€<br />
â€œShe must hide.â€<br />
â€œShe can start againâ€<br />
â€œAgain?â€<br />
â€œAt middle age?â€<br />
â€œHusband?â€<br />
â€œChildren?â€<br />
â€œYepa!â€</p>
<p>And our company marketing line?<br />
What Pride?</p>
<p>She canâ€™t.<br />
Canâ€™t.<br />
Canâ€™t.<br />
Canâ€™t.<br />
Canâ€™t.</p>
<p>â€œHelp!â€</p>
<p>Help Miss Rachel </span><font color="#777777"><time Minute="40" Hour="2"><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'">2:40 AM</span></time><span style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'"> </span></font></p>
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		<title>CHANGING LEVELS TOO</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 20 Dec 2006 16:24:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dipo Tepede</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[If you feel the weight of circumstance pulling you down from achieving all your dreams, I believe you are at the right place because today, I am going to show you a practical way of CHANGING LEVELS; is it from being single to becoming married, from being unemployed to employed or for whatever level you &#8230; </p><p><a class="more-link block-button" href="http://www.dipotepede.org/2006/12/20/changing-levels-too/">Continue reading &#187;</a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">If you feel the weight of circumstance pulling you down from achieving all your dreams, I believe you are at the right place because today, I am going to show you a practical way of CHANGING LEVELS; is it from being single to becoming married, from being unemployed to employed or for whatever level you want to attain. You need to follow an exact principle which has nothing to do with New Year resolution or stronger will. Have you tried very hard to get out of that condition you are in but it seems as if the gravity of circumstances keeps holding you down? You need to wipe your tears because the answer to your issue is around you.<span id="more-191"></span></font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">I started in <a title="changing levels" href="http://www.dipotepede.org/2006/12/07/changing-levels/" target="_blank">Part 1</a> by telling you how my baby girl taught me to visualize where I wanted to be and then follow it but I did not tell you the process, you had to go through in order to get there. It is very easy for you to assume in order to move from one level to another, you needed the circumstances to change but thatâ€™s not the way it works because for you to change levels in life, you have to evolve while the circumstance remains constant. This is the way it works; if you are interested in moving from single hood to being married (assuming you want a Godly married- marriage that would last and you would find fulfillment), you would not change levels by finding a man to propose to you because you can be married and yet not enjoy the fruits of being married. You would get to that stead of fulfilled marriage if you constantly evolve because you would then attract a partner who also wants a fulfilled marriage.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">This is the principle that precedes every substantial change whether the actors involved are aware of it or not. The law of gravity does not change, if you need to render the law of gravity inefficient, you need to acquire a different law like the law of aerodynamics. This is the way levels are changed; you change while the circumstances remain constant. But how do you change and render your circumstances ineffective? This is a very good question and deserves your full attention. You need to metamorphose, you need to change to a totally new creature and this can only be achieved by renewing your mind because the mind is the seat that makes who we are. The difference between two people is the way their mind functions not the way they look. The mind which I would also refer to as the soul needs to prosper for you to prosper. This is the key to every change.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">Let me tell you a story about the wild dog latched to a door, every time he tries run away, it experiences pain because of the latch. It tries its best to get away but only ends up sustaining lessons and pains around its neck. Over time, it learnt never to run away but just stay within the perimeter that would prevent the pains it experience whenever it tried to run away. If the latch is taken away from its neck, the wild dog would find it difficult to run away. This story perfectly defines conditioning and its effect on every living creature. If I want to change my level from unemployed to being employed and I am required to write an aptitude test. If I fail the aptitude test in a successive recruitment process like say 7 times, I would be condition to believe I am not good with aptitude test even if I am giving an aptitude test that I am enabled to pass very easily. This is the dilemma that faces every human- the barrier that hinders human from getting to their preferred level.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">In order to understand this phenomenon and create a bypass, one needs to study the metamorphosis of the caterpillar to a butterfly because the caterpillar is hindered by gravity while the butterfly is not though they are the same specie. This is what God meant in the bible when it said when any man is in Christ, he is a new creature not physical but in the way his mind works. This new creature, just like the butterfly, is not hindered by the gravity of circumstance; the creature has a different law within him that makes these circumstances ineffective. In transforming to this new creature, there is a total overhauling of the mind based on your preferred need. Letâ€™s look deeply at the caterpillar-butterfly metamorphosis.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">There are five stages that the caterpillar must go through before entering itâ€™s pupate stage (the stage that transits the butterfly stage). These stages are referred to as Instar but before the butterfly changes from one stage to another, it sheds its skin (this is called molting). How the caterpillar molts is the same way a man changes from one level to another. The butterfly molts by growing a new skin within the one that it already possesses, when the new skin has been fully formed, the old skin automatically sheds away. If a man wants change his level, he has to renew his mind not enhance his physical appearance. He enhances his mind by focusing on where he desires to be in (check <a title="changing levels" href="http://www.dipotepede.org/2006/12/07/changing-levels/" target="_blank">part 1</a> for more details). If the mind has been fully formed in that direction, it automatically shed its old ideas and he is on its way to the new level though like the butterfly it has not yet grown wings. You develop your mind towards the place you are going to and you would find yourself there.</font></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">This principle has been repeated by great minds all over the world and the true litmus test comes when there is a law that hinders your desire just the way Paul in the bible complained that there was a law that is hindering what he desired. When the law hinders your desire, you know you have not fully developed that mind. So my dear, keep improving your mind by feeding it with where you want to get to in life. Let me take this opportunity to wish you a MERRY CHRISTMAS in advance.</font></p>
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		<title>Love vs. Feelings</title>
		<link>http://www.dipotepede.org/2006/12/06/love-vs-feelings/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 06 Dec 2006 11:17:04 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I would be having guest bloggers in the house for the month of December to commemorate my six month anniversary. In view of this, we would be having an outstanding blogger today; check out her condensed profile and check out her write-up on â€œLove vs. Feelingsâ€. You would definitely love her style; she is got &#8230; </p><p><a class="more-link block-button" href="http://www.dipotepede.org/2006/12/06/love-vs-feelings/">Continue reading &#187;</a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">I would be having guest bloggers in the house for the month of December to commemorate my six month anniversary. In view of this, we would be having an outstanding blogger today; check out her condensed profile and check out her write-up on â€œLove vs. Feelingsâ€. You would definitely love her style; she is got packs of nuggets and flair.</font></p>
<p><font face="Times New Roman" size="3" /><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">Guest Blogger:Â  Angela</font></p>
<p><font face="Times New Roman" size="3" /><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">Occupation:Â Â Â Â Â  Mother</font></p>
<p><font face="Times New Roman" size="3" /><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"><font size="3"><font face="Times New Roman">Web site:Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â  </font></font><a href="http://www.refinedone.wordpress.com/"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">www.refinedone.wordpress.com</font></a></p>
<p>Writing Style:Â Â  Bold and Inquisitive</p>
<p><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"><span id="more-182"></span></font><img title="More..." height="10" alt="More..." src="http://www.dipotepede.org/wp-includes/js/tinymce/themes/advanced/images/spacer.gif" width="628" name="mce_plugin_wordpress_more" /></p>
<p><font face="Times New Roman" size="3" /><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3" /><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3" /><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"><font size="3"><font face="Times New Roman">Love has been described as a human experience that is manifested in feelings be it in behaviour, emotion or attitude to others in relationship or of one&#8217;s self.<br />
</font></font><font size="3"><font face="Times New Roman">The bible says Love is an attitude and action that is not determined by feelings or positive response from othersÂ deservingÂ or undeserving. We can&#8217;tÂ talk about Love and not quote 1 Corinthians 13:4-8Â <br />
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</font></font><font size="3"><font face="Times New Roman">Â Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres. Love never fails.<br />
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</font></font><strong><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">Â </font> </strong><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"><font size="3"><font face="Times New Roman">Love is more than a feeling!<br />
</font></font><strong><font size="3"><font face="Times New Roman">Â <br />
</font></font><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">Â </font></strong></font><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3" /><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"><font size="3"><font face="Times New Roman">Â Love is demonstrative, it&#8217;s active, because we have been and areÂ loved by God.<br />
</font></font><font size="3"><font face="Times New Roman">It did not say you love because you feel like only or love only those that deserve your love, but love without expecting anything in return.Â By the way that can only be possible if youÂ operate in God&#8217;s kind of love-Agape<strong>.</strong> The otherÂ kinds of love are lot more based on Feelings, a more self centered love-sexual desire and physical craving,Â Erotic love-Eros<strong>,</strong>Â affectionsÂ in a loving concern to a friend-<script>  <!-- D(["mb","&amp;amp;nbsp;(Plios)</strong>&amp;amp;nbsp;</div>
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<div>When we realise that the best, safest and best kind of love is the God \nkind, not one base on feeling, cos feelings are changeable, unstable and can\'t \nbe truly trusted. They have the ability of distorting the truth.</div>
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<div>Feeling are good indictors of Love, but still that can be tested.....</div>
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<div>lets look at&amp;amp;nbsp;marriage which is made up&amp;amp;nbsp; of two people committed \nto one another in Love not feelings.....Marriage is not sustained by just the \nfeelings you get&amp;amp;nbsp; in the earlier days of courtship, when your man/woman \nwalks in to a room or you think about them.....Remember when you were dating and \nyour partner could not upset, cos you felt so happy! looking in to there eyes \nand dreaming of a future with them forever...when he picks from your food at \ndinner you thought it was&amp;amp;nbsp;oh so cute...but couple of year into marriage \nthat same thing you found cute now&amp;amp;nbsp;irritated you so!...Well feelings will \nnot keep you married for long, cos you are guaranteed ot \nhave&amp;amp;nbsp;bumps&amp;amp;nbsp;along the way ... In fact you will&amp;amp;nbsp;feel hate for you \npartner at some time in the journey of your marriage.</div>
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<div>So what holds a marriage and keeps it strong during the times of \nshaking?&amp;amp;nbsp; But a vow, a commitment, a decision.</div>
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<div>Love is not optional....Feelings are...Love foundation, a corner stone \nnothing can be built without it....Feeling are ever changing.</div>
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<div>Which would you prefer to receive? Love or Feeling.</div>
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<div>In my opinion I would take love everytime.....what\'s your take?</div>
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</font></font><font size="3"><font face="Times New Roman">When we realize that the best, safest and best kind of love is the God kind, not one base on feeling, cos feelings are changeable, unstable and can&#8217;t be truly trusted. They have the ability of distorting the truth.<br />
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</font></font><font size="3"><font face="Times New Roman">Feelings are good indictors of Love, but still that can be tested&#8230;..<br />
</font></font><font size="3"><font face="Times New Roman">lets look atÂ marriage which is made upÂ of two people committed to one another in Love not feelings&#8230;..Marriage is not sustained by just the feelings you getÂ in the earlier days of courtship, when your man/woman walks in to a room or you think about them&#8230;..Remember when you were dating and your partner could not upset, cos you felt so happy! looking in to there eyes and dreaming of a future with them forever&#8230;when he picks from your food at dinner you thought it wasÂ oh so cute&#8230;but couple of year into marriage that same thing you found cute nowÂ irritated you so!&#8230;Well feelings will not keep you married for long, cos you are guaranteed to haveÂ bumpsÂ along the way &#8230; In fact you willÂ feel hate for your partner at some time in the journey of your marriage.<br />
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</font></font><font size="3"><font face="Times New Roman">So what holds a marriage and keeps it strong during the times of shaking?Â  But a vow, a commitment, a decision.<br />
</font></font><font size="3"><font face="Times New Roman">Love is not optional&#8230;.Feelings are&#8230;Love is foundation, a corner stone nothing can be built without it&#8230;.Feeling are ever changing.<br />
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</font></font><font size="3"><font face="Times New Roman">Which would you prefer to receive? Love or Feeling.<br />
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</font></font><font size="3"><font face="Times New Roman">In my opinion I would take love every time&#8230;..what&#8217;s your take?<br />
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		<title>INTERVIEW- PHD@25</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 04 Dec 2006 08:02:48 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[â€œA lizard in Nigeria can never be an alligator in UKâ€ â€“ Late Bishop Ben Idahosa Every time, I interview my fellow Nigerians in Diaspora especially those based in UK and US, I get mails from those residing in Nigeria making comments like it is because he/she is in this environment, that they can make &#8230; </p><p><a class="more-link block-button" href="http://www.dipotepede.org/2006/12/04/interview-phd25/">Continue reading &#187;</a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">â€œA lizard in Nigeria can never be an alligator in UKâ€ â€“ Late Bishop Ben Idahosa</font></p>
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<p><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">Every time, I interview my fellow Nigerians in Diaspora especially those based in UK and US, I get mails from those residing in Nigeria making comments like it is because he/she is in this environment, that they can make such an impact especially at that age. Truth, be told, I fail to see what they are getting at because every environment has its pros and cons and aligning yourself with the pros is what makes you come on top. </font></p>
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<p><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">Anyway, I had an interview with an outstanding Nigeria who bagged her PHD at the age of 25; graduated from the university with a First Class (I am sure some people would be wondering whatâ€™s so special). Well, after chatting and discussing with her about the Pradas, Jimmy Shoos, Feragamos, Versaces of this world, I realized that this babe was not a nerd o, her pictures reveal a peach and cute babe (Where does she get the time from?) and to crown it all up she has a very strong passion for God. She is just too outstanding (IMHO). Well, enjoy my chat with Dr. Life of A Stranger Called Me.<span id="more-178"></span><img title="More..." height="10" alt="More..." src="http://www.dipotepede.org/wp-includes/js/tinymce/themes/advanced/images/spacer.gif" width="492" name="mce_plugin_wordpress_more" /></font></p>
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<p><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-GB"><font size="3">1)</font></span><span lang="EN-GB">Â Â Â Â Â  </span><span lang="EN-GB"><font size="3">May I know your age? </font></span></font></p>
<p><font size="3"><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-GB">Ans</span></font><span lang="EN-GB"><font face="Times New Roman">: 26 (donâ€™t tell anyone)</font></span></font></p>
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<p><font size="3"><span lang="EN-GB"><font face="Times New Roman" /></span></font><font size="3"><font size="3"><span lang="EN-GB"><font face="Times New Roman" /></span><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-GB"><font size="3">2)</font></span><span lang="EN-GB">Â Â Â Â Â  </span><span lang="EN-GB"><font size="3">Tell us about yourself (schools attended, careers, where you stay, etc) â€“<br />
</font></span></font><font size="3"><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-GB">Ans: Still Live in The UK (that is Home) â€“ visiting the </span><span lang="EN-GB">US</span><span lang="EN-GB"> as an International Fellow</span></font></font></font></font></p>
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<p><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-GB" /><span lang="EN-GB"><font size="3">3)At what age did you obtain your PHD? Â <br />
</font></span></font><span lang="EN-GB"><font size="3"><font face="Times New Roman">Ans: 25</font></font></span></p>
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<p><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-GB" /><span lang="EN-GB"><font size="3">4)Tell us about the course you study, the economic and socio-political relevance of the course?<br />
</font></span></font><span lang="EN-GB"><font size="3"><font face="Times New Roman">Ans: Â My field is primarily drug discovery â€“ And search for drug targets. It also depends on the need which is driven by pharm industries. For my Doctorate I had to use the following areas of science: Physics, mathematics, chemistry and computer science and apply it to biological systems &#8211; In terms of trying to reproduce a working biological system insilico. The Pharm industry at the time of my research study was particularly interested in finding a drug target for a protein that not only caused many cancers but was also involved in inflammatory diseases such as asthma, HIV and countless other diseases. And yes there are specific proteins (known as transcription factors) proven to be involved in many disease â€“ The List for this transcription factor runs into its thousands â€“ So its big money for the Pharm industry if a drug target can be found for this protein..Â </font></font></span></p>
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<p><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-GB" /><span lang="EN-GB"><font size="3">5)What opportunities have been opened to you due to your age as regards your PHD?<br />
</font></span></font><font size="3"><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-GB">Ans: Well First of all I am believer in God â€“ so whatever opportunities that have been opened to me I have attributed to having God on my side. There is a lot of politics in my field especially trying to make it in academia â€“ So sometimes itâ€™s not enough to have a doctorate; you also need the favour of the Lord. Many people who choose to study for a doctorate in </span><span lang="EN-GB">England</span><span lang="EN-GB"> tends to have a Ph.D by 25 (which is the norm if you went straight after your undergraduate degree). So itâ€™s not a heavily huge thing to have your doctorate at that age.</span></font></font></p>
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<p><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-GB">6)Â  </span><span lang="EN-GB"><font size="3">Do you regard yourself as a bookworm?<br />
</font></span></font><span lang="EN-GB"><font size="3"><font face="Times New Roman">Ans: You must be having a laugh!! â€“ I was during my undergraduate years â€“ I was fiercely competitive â€“ but the Ph.D was relatively much easier. The Lord was in it.Â </font></font></span></p>
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<p><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-GB" /><span lang="EN-GB"><font size="3">7)Would you say because your parents are very wealthy that you were able to reach the pinnacle of formal education on time?<br />
</font></span></font><span lang="EN-GB"><font size="3"><font face="Times New Roman">Ans: Wealthy!! â€“ They were ok â€“ but going to a very good school in the Northwest of England where I lived helped me a little â€“ I think!! â€“ But I wasnâ€™t always intelligent in high school â€“ quite the opposite â€“ But the Word of the Lord says He has decreed and said it â€“ so I had to reach where He I would!</font></font></span></p>
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<p><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-GB">8)Â </span><span lang="EN-GB"><font size="3">Are you married? If not do you believe obtaining a PHD this early would hinder your success in marriage?<br />
</font></span></font><font size="3"><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-GB">Ans: Â Donâ€™t be silly â€“ it actually adds to it. â€“ No Iâ€™m not married â€“ In fact it is quite the opposite (I think) â€“ but I guess from a Nigerian view point they might thinks itâ€™s a negative â€“ but out here many students are enrolling on Ph. D. programs now â€“ as there has to be something distinctively different when compared to other graduates. In the </span><span lang="EN-GB">UK</span><span lang="EN-GB"> we have more Science graduates than we have ever had â€“ and most are capable of doing many science orientated jobs in the industry â€“ so to give yourself that added advantage most science course come with a Masters certificate at the end or an option to go on and do a Ph.D. So because there a more scholars than before coming out with a Ph.D., itâ€™s not necessary a huge deal in the science field â€“ especially if you are career orientated. To get the promotion you deserve you stand at a better chance of being promoted very quickly. Now will it hinder my success in marriage â€“ NO â€“ It will not hinder my success in finding a good man â€“ or working through my marriage. I am single only out of choice â€“ I think I might have just met the one â€“ but Iâ€™m praying through it.</span></font></font></p>
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<p><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-GB" /><span lang="EN-GB"><font size="3">9)How long did it take you to obtain your PHD? Any challenge along the way?<br />
</font></span></font><span lang="EN-GB"><font size="3"><font face="Times New Roman">Ans: Â The best part of 2 Â½ years â€“ I wouldnâ€™t say there wasnâ€™t any challenges, especially when the field I was working in was very new â€“ But the Lord that I serve made it an uncomplicated experience â€“ My Experience cannot be compared to others, but I would be lying if I told you my experience was a difficult one â€“ Church members didnâ€™t even know I was doing a Ph.D. until the end when I was recognised and acknowledged in my Church. This was because they felt that the stress of it all would be visible for the world to see.</font></font></span></p>
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<p><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-GB" /><font size="3"><span lang="EN-GB">10)When last did you reach </span><span lang="EN-GB">Nigeria</span><span lang="EN-GB">? What are your views on the happenings in </span><span lang="EN-GB">Nigeria</span><span lang="EN-GB">?<br />
</span></font></font><font size="3"><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-GB">Ans: December of 2005 â€“ I thought we were making progress, But I must confess all I know about the happenings in </span><span lang="EN-GB">Nigeria</span><span lang="EN-GB"> is what Iâ€™ve been told â€“ Which is pretty pathetic. I will try and make more of an effort in the future.<br />
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<p><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-GB" /><span lang="EN-GB"><font size="3">11)If you were the President of Nigeria; what solutions would you proffer to resolve unemployment issues?<br />
</font></span></font><font size="3"><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-GB">Ans: The problem in Nigerian is the inherent need to defraud â€“ I say this because everyone who goes into power thrives on the knowledge that it is now their turn to enjoy what that position has to offer in terms of kickbacks and back handed bribes â€“ Now to resolve unemployment issues jobs need to be created. To create jobs money needs to be made available to pay the employee, and to have this money available the people placed in authority must be trusted that the money will not be aligned in their bank accounts. So how do we find trusted people who can and will not be remotely interested in trying to defraud the establishment? How do we go about retraining mindsets already moulded and set on selfish motives? How do we go about instilling in people the idea that you must stick to what youâ€™ve been paid and maybe set other avenues to bring in revenues if you are the type to live beyond your means. I am not saying that we donâ€™t have rock solid and trusted individuals but to make this work we need others in agreement. Even the control theories I work on states that the effect of an individual entity is dependent on the magnitude of the others surrounding it. So if Iâ€™m president I will pray that the Lord will send me 12 trusted cabinet members, people who can affect </span><span lang="EN-GB">Nigeria</span><span lang="EN-GB"> for the better.<br />
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</font></span></font><span lang="EN-GB"><font size="3"><font face="Times New Roman">Ans: The Fact that good plans have already been decreed for me, and even though some days might be hard, the good plans the Lord has already planned will come to pass. That<br />
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<p><font face="Times New Roman"><span lang="EN-GB" /><span lang="EN-GB">13)Â  </span><span lang="EN-GB"><font size="3">Do you believe that having a PHD gives you an advantage over a degree holder?<br />
</font></span></font><span lang="EN-GB"><font size="3"><font face="Times New Roman">Ans: Â It makes me overqualified to do certain things I would have enjoyed doing Â â€“ The only advantage it give me is the ability to command respect wherever I go, and to be promoted quickly in the field I choose to work in. But we are pretty much the same. We still have the same knowledgeable base, the difference is you become an expert in that chosen area â€“ and what you say would have to be listened to.<br />
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</font></span></font><span lang="EN-GB"><font size="3"><font face="Times New Roman">Ans: Be sure of what it is you want. If you are a scientist then by all means enrol on Ph.D course just to give you that added edge to other graduates and postgraduates. However there are some field where a Ph.D. is not a necessity more like an accessory. If you are interested in working in academia then a doctoral certificate will be a necessity in all field â€“ but if you are in going into industry then a Ph.D in science will help a great deal as you progress in that area â€“ but not particularly pertinent to other fields.<br />
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</font></span></span></font><span lang="EN-GB"><font size="3"><font face="Times New Roman">Ans: Please, tell meâ€¦.. I think youâ€™re trying to end with a joke; Ph. D. stands for Doctor of Philosophy. It is the same as D. Phil â€“ it just depends on the institution and their style.<br />
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		<title>Whatâ€™s Love Got to Do with it?</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 09 Oct 2006 11:46:30 +0000</pubDate>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">The word love (in the context of male and female relationship) is often misconstrued; no wonder people use it in the context that totally disagrees with the real meaning of it. If I ask you what love is, you will definitely pause to think about it and the answer you will give may be right or wrong depending on your life experience. Before, I delve deep into this topic, I would love you to read and think about a story I got from a fellow blogger using <a title="bellanaija" href="http://www.dipotepede.org/www.bellanaija.com" target="_blank">Bellanaija</a> as her pseudo name. This story actually prompted this article. Please, read on;<span id="more-144"></span><img title="More..." height="10" alt="More..." src="http://www.dipotepede.org/wp-includes/js/tinymce/themes/advanced/images/spacer.gif" width="529" name="mce_plugin_wordpress_more" /></font></p>
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<p><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">Here is my story. I just moved to the states some months ago. I recently started my MBA but moved here some months early to settle down. I have a girlfriend back in Nigeria and we dated for about 7 years. I met her during my 100 level at university and we have been together since then. Before I left Nigeria, I proposed to her, introduced myself to her parents and made it known that I will be back next year to marry her. I even told my parents and they are making preparations. My fiancÃ©e is a sweet girl, I was her first boyfriend and I know she will make a good wife.<br />
Here is my problem; I met this other girl when I arrived in Boston. At first I thought we could be just friends â€“ that did not work. I thought it was just a fling â€“ it is deeper than that. I am in love with her. I no longer answer my fiancÃ©e&#8217;s calls or emails. I heard from some friends that she is quite depressed due to my new attitude but I can&#8217;t help myself, I have never felt the way I feel about my new girlfriend.</font><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"></p>
<p /></font><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">I am wondering, what do I do now?</font><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"></p>
<p /></font><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">How do I break this news to my fiancÃ©e? She stuck by me for 7 years.</font><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"></p>
<p /></font><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">How do I tell our parents?</font><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"></p>
<p /></font><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">I am very confused. This situation is even distracting me from my MBA studies.</font><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"></p>
<p /></font><font size="3"><font face="Times New Roman">I know I am partially at fault but please help me.<br />
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<p><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">The Marriage Factor</font></p>
<p><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">Assuming the guy had married the lady of 7 years relationship. Would he be asking for help? I doubt it because the answer to the issue would be very clear. In order to validate the other relationship, other factors like love come into play. Therefore, the guy is going through a perspective issue which is definitely psychological. If the general definition of love is a strong feeling for the other then itâ€™s basically psychological. Why? You may ask. Well, have you ever seen a corporate lady, driving an official car, fall in love with a â€˜molueâ€™ conductor or an â€˜okadaâ€™ driver? This is rare and almost impossible. This clearly indicates that the strong feelings come as a result of a defined boundary like religious affiliation, educational background, economic status, etc. This calls for a redefinition of what we define as love</font></p>
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<p><font face="Times New Roman" size="3" /><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">Â <font face="Times New Roman" size="3">The Lust Factor</font></p>
<p><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">Words like crush, lust, being fond of and love are sometimes used interchangeably. Could this be true? Let me define them in the way they are normally used; Crush is a strong feeling you have for someone who is not aware of those feelings; Lust is a strong feeling that controls you instead of you controlling it- this feeling dictates every move you make and it normally occurs with someone you are not familiar with; Being fond of is having a strong feeling for someone without knowing why; Love is a strong feeling you have with someone you are familiar with < familiarity in terms of knowing the strength and weakness of the individual>. The common factor between these four variables is strong feeling though the degree of intensity may differ. Then, how can one differentiate between these four elements? This is exactly what makes the above story a definition issue. In differentiating between love and lust; it is noteworthy that time does not define familiarity but familiarity can not be defined without time. Does this guy love the Boston girl or the Nigerian girl? This question can only be answered by the guy involved in a solitude platform.</font></p>
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<p><font face="Times New Roman" size="3" /><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">Â <font face="Times New Roman" size="3">The only option</font></p>
<p><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">It is very easy to pass the blame on the guy and it even seems justifiable to do so but on a deeper perspective both the Boston lady and the Nigerian lady have their share in the whole issue. Perusing my older articles like <a title="what u deserve" href="http://www.dipotepede.org/?s=you+get+what+you+deserve" target="_blank">You Get What you Deserve</a>, <a title="all men are bad" href="http://www.dipotepede.org/2006/07/08/all-men-are-bad/" target="_blank">All Men are Bad</a>, <a title="reason for hurt" href="http://www.dipotepede.org/?s=7+reasons+why+female+get+hurt" target="_blank">7 Reasons why Females get Hurt in Relationship</a> and <a title="love wan titi" href="http://www.dipotepede.org/2006/08/30/love-wan-titi/" target="_blank">Love Wan Titi</a> would provide the needed answers. The only option to avoiding this scenario is a personal relationship with God through His Holy Spiritâ€¦â€¦â€¦â€¦</font></p>
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		<title>YOU GET WHAT YOU DESERVE</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 04 Sep 2006 09:34:06 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dipo Tepede</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[In my journey through successful endeavors, I have learnt that circumventing the processes of converting your passions to competency would not pay in the long run, because those avoided processes would eventually catch-up with you. Be it Marriage, Financial Success, Parenting, Career, Committed Relationships or even Job Seeking. No wonder when people complain about woes &#8230; </p><p><a class="more-link block-button" href="http://www.dipotepede.org/2006/09/04/you-get-what-you-deserve/">Continue reading &#187;</a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img id="image120" height="59" alt="23foot_CA0.600.jpg" src="http://www.dipotepede.org/wp-content/uploads/2006/09/23foot_CA0.600.thumbnail.jpg" /><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">In my journey through successful endeavors, I have learnt that circumventing the processes of converting your passions to competency would not pay in the long run, because those avoided processes would eventually catch-up with you. Be it Marriage, Financial Success, Parenting, Career, Committed Relationships or even Job Seeking. No wonder when people complain about woes that befall them, I fail to see the issues, no matter how empathetic I may sound, I know any which way we analyze the issue; we are (subconsciously or not) the direct cause of it.<span id="more-121"></span></font><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"><img title="More..." height="10" alt="More..." src="http://www.dipotepede.org/wp-includes/js/tinymce/themes/advanced/images/spacer.gif" width="872" name="mce_plugin_wordpress_more" /></font><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">Â </p>
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<p><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">This quickly brings me to the conversation I had with a beautiful young girl in the verge of choosing a life partner. After, evaluating her preferred man, I knew she was headed for a very difficult time that she may not even be able to accommodate. Her very words were simply that she wanted a man that had a little â€œbadnessâ€ inside of him. She eventually complained about 5 weeks down the line of choosing her new beau, that she could not accommodate his X and Y behavior and she doesnâ€™t see herself marrying him. Oh was I glad that she quickly discovered herself unlike some stubborn females who fail to see the fault and carry on with the relationship anyway.</font></p>
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<p><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">This issue of not knowing our faults in the woes that befall us is something that is very prevalent in a macrocosm level like decadence in economy, political, cultural or social in a nation. The average values that exist within the people reflect in the leaders that stirs the cause of their life. How hard is it for a poverty stricken nation to accept the fact that the oppressive mindset of the citizen itself is what produces the leader that accumulates the countries treasures and diverts it into his personal accounts? How hard is it for you to understand that where you are now, is a direct result of the decisions you made in the past?</font></p>
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<p><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">After 3 months of starting the </font><a href="http://www.dipotepede.org/"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">www.dipotepede.org</font></a><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"> project, I did some personal x-ray of the core reason of starting a project that consumes numerous amount of my time. I realized that the prevailing value that exist within a people which eventually affects their out come in life in whatever sector of their life,Â  starts with their earlier exposure to certain values that has been inculcated in their mindset. These values are inherited from their parents, uncles, television, cable, books, etc and affect their everyday existence even their immediate environ be it organic or inorganic.</font></p>
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<p><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">A very good example is the win-lose mentality which is evident in everyday sports, business, education, politics, etc. When someone wins, we rejoice with the person and the person becomes an icon that conjures the image of a hero in our hearts. But this is a very wrong value that must be stopped because it produces oppression which eventually causes those armed robbers that visited your home, raped your daughter and wife, steal your hard earned monies and cause you grief that may take you time to recover from. The only motivation for these robbers is to win through life and to produce a loser at the end of the day. This win-lose mentality, we condone and even use as our source of entertainment like sports, is a direct result of the unhealthy competition in politics resulting in killing of political stalwarts, abducting of children for rituals, etc. </font></p>
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<p><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">The loser is forgotten and even booed, no wonder it is difficult for people to embrace failure as a necessary prerequisite for success. They take it hard on themselves when they make mistakes which are inevitable to competency. They try to avoid the process and gun for the success and we point fingers at the fraudsters and armed robbers. We must first change our values that emanate from our mindset before we can change the happenings of the world. The world is a direct result of our actions which comes directly from our minds.</font></p>
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<p><font face="Times New Roman" size="3">The issue of terrorism can not be far fetch. We support government that impose their self aggrandizing agenda on some perceived weak nation and expect peace. We must be very funny to believe we can act bully and act judge. This is actually the reason for this project to awaken the awareness and consciousness of the people that everything we see is a direct result of our action whether we like it or not. There is no bad person and no good person; we are either all bad or all good. I keep wondering why CNN (Cable Network News) showed a documentary titled â€œIn the Footsteps of Bin Ladenâ€ more than 5 times this weekend alone. A simple projection of pointing faults to one man and failing to accept your own mistakes is a pride issue and God resists the proud. The indoctrination of such documentaries watched by 40% of the world is no different from the indoctrination of suicide bombers; all have the same theme â€œHATE YOUR NEIGHBORS AS YOUR ENEMIESâ€.</font></p>
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