I read somewhere that it is easier to make money than make a difference; I witnessed this first hand when I had to choose between applying my limited resources to either making money or making a difference. After careful analysis, I chose the former (the keyword here is limited resources) but on hindsight, I realize that I could make a difference in someone’s life and in turn make money in the process. However, this would require a skill-set called patience (not a popular virtue I must admit).
I believe that everybody wants to make a difference in someone’s life but one way or the other; we concentrate on our survival rather than think of our neighbor in pain. Well, I guess we have to love ourselves first before entertaining a remote thought of our neighbor in need; the commandment was LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF. There must definitely be a reference (which happens to be you) to use in loving a neighbor. I hope this last statement would not kick off a controversy.
Please, no controversy: let’s just get to the crux of the topic; I realized that my earlier write-ups about personal relationships concerning male and female counterparts have drawn a lot of attention amongst the female readers: I get mails constantly seeking solutions to their relationship issues. There is one particular issue that made me realize the urgency in bringing out a report that would give directions to all these pent-up pain and distress especially when it comes to dating. Please, review the issue below:
Subject: CHRISTIAN COUNSEL NEEDED, DESPERATELY
Message: Sir, please I am a 27yr old female Christian sister. I am on the verge of calling off a 5months old relationship that means so much to me. I don’t know if I am on the right path. You see I got introduced to this guy by a mutual friend of ours. There were some physical things I didn’t like but he is such a genuine Christian and I focused on that. I have always wanted a good Christian but they seem so hard to find so when I saw this one; I was so happy but he doesn’t seem to care about me so much. He doesn’t make me feel important, can never use endearing words, hardly craves to see me though he calls me twice daily. But we live in the same town; he thinks we can do with calls most time. Whereas, the reverse is the case for me: When I offer to help him clean his house or cook his meals when he is at work, he turns down the offer. He feels I am infatuated and keeps saying he has only agape love for everyone including me but Eros he can only give to his wife. But how am I so sure he is capable of that at all or if he can ever be crazy about me. I just wonder if I wouldn’t forever beg him to show me love. but he is a good Christian but is that enough to get married to someone as he talked marriage from the onset. Shouldn’t people who are in love be crazy about each other? I have talked and talked and I am now tagged a nagger but I am frustrated sincerely I need a prayerful counsel please. God bless you
When I read it, I was first taken a back; I knew that whatever I counsel would make a difference in the life of this young lady (either positive or negative). I was not the Holy Spirit so I knew I could never really counsel her adequately but she saw me as a contact to resolving her issue. So instead of concocting an advice; I set up a meeting online to get more insight into the issue. I knew what the issue was but I knew the most effective way of resolving this issue is for her to discover the answer herself through the prompting of the Holy Spirit.
I asked for her address and couriered about five Christian films from my collections that I believe would speak to her and help her understand what she was going through. The films were FIREPROOF, THE PERFECT STRANGER, ANOTHER PERFECT STRANGER, FACING THE GIANT, EVERY YOUNG WOMAN’s BATTLE. I knew she would be able to pick up the sensors of the Holy Spirit if she watched those moviz. I was glad I never intervened personally in the whole thingy because true to my beliefs, she called me three days later teaching me what the Holy Spirit taught her while watching the film.
I called her a month later and the testimony was reassuring. I knew God has used me to make a difference in her life. I started wondering if this is not what we are called as Christians to do. By taking time from our busy schedule to attend to a brother/sister in need is one of the things that make God happy. I am actually giving out a FREE REPORT that would make a difference in people’s life and I need your help to spread this report. It is one report that I believe would speak to you.
However, I guess I am a bit controversial, so you can read my earlier write-up first on relationships before opting-in for the this free report. kindly click HERE to read 7 Reasons Why Ladies Get Hurt in A Relationship.
It is a 25-page report that was researched and written by the POeT Solvers Team to make a difference in the lives of our sisters. In order to get this report, please send the italic mail below to me[at]dipotepede.org copying three (3) email addresses of your friends. We would send you the link to download this report. Please, choose the friends carefully: You are going to be making a difference in the person’s life by doing this. Remember, whatever you do for your fellow brethren, God would do for you.
Dear friend,
Dipo Tepede is giving out a 25-page FREE REPORT that I believe you should look into. The title of the report is: 7 Reasons Why Ladies Date the Wrong Guy: Taking your time to read it might be the answer to the issues you have been battling with. You may click the link below or copy the link and place in the address bar of your browser to get instructions on how to get it.
http://www.dipotepede.org/dipos-books/woman-palaver/
Best regards,
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28 comments
March 20, 2012 at 12:45 pm (UTC 1)
in life as long as live will face different problem, all will need is the grace of god . life is self is a lesson will learned from people mistake.
February 17, 2012 at 3:17 pm (UTC 1)
well done dipos. i hope to lay my hand on Ur free report. if possible spk with u one on one. my heart is heavy.
December 5, 2011 at 5:25 pm (UTC 1)
having just checked out your website, feels good knowing you
August 31, 2011 at 7:39 pm (UTC 1)
PLS HW AND WHERE CAN I GET A COPY OF DIS BOOK COS WITOUT READING IT AM FALLING IN LUV WIT IT ALREADY ANYWAY KUDOS 2 U
July 1, 2011 at 11:30 am (UTC 1)
HI Dipo..and Jack,
Wow your words really give me strength man and god bless jack .yes you are a beutiful man lets hope with gods strength and help we can make my love for another man not a sin anymore,…with your help dipo i really believe my village will accept my love for young boys,and jack if you are anywhere near lagos lets hook up ya get me we can make some beutifull music (with dipos words and inspiration in the back ground)..much love my man….keep it real
olu
June 28, 2011 at 4:08 pm (UTC 1)
Hello Dipo,
I get such pleasure reading the comments and thoughts of such a beautiful man such as yourself.. The more I read the more in love I fall with you.. You are trully a beautiful man.. I know my words will atrract criticism but from the way you speak I know you can find forgivness for a homosexual man such as myself.
All my love
Jack (I use a false name but email me back for my real name my man)
June 4, 2011 at 10:31 pm (UTC 1)
Tanks for your good works, please help us do more, lets know our stand
March 23, 2011 at 4:21 pm (UTC 1)
I HAVE A RELATIONSHIP THAT IS ABOUT TO DIE BECAUSE OF SEX PLEASE HELP ME.
March 17, 2011 at 1:24 pm (UTC 1)
on a second note: many ladies think that by cooking, washing or even ………the “other ” for a guy will make him think that u are the best lady for him, that is not true, Y should u do that for a man u are not yet sure of? those are the duties of a wife, but if u have chosen to do that for him, then it of no use asking u to marry him., and that is Y u will stay with a guy for years and he will not say that word “will u marry me” because u are already carrying out the functions of wife. he will think that this is how u do it with every man that comes your way that is men for u. so ladies u better “watch it”
March 17, 2011 at 1:01 pm (UTC 1)
honestly speaking so many people are passing tru pains all in the name of christain marriage which is not suppose to be so. the women suffer most reason, they fear to be seperated especially when they already have a child in that marraig. or in a case were by your father or mother is a leader or an elder in the church, even if u complain they will prefer u die in it than be divorced and give them shame. so that is Y i have chosen to advise my self for am the only one who really know how i feel. if u listen to people, at night u can’t sleep while they are busy snoring in their own bed with their loved once.
February 21, 2011 at 1:30 pm (UTC 1)
i will like to have more of this facts on my mail.
February 10, 2011 at 2:10 pm (UTC 1)
i am having the same issue.
February 5, 2011 at 5:52 pm (UTC 1)
cultural and environmental influence.
October 14, 2010 at 12:22 pm (UTC 1)
Good morning brother, thank you so much for your contributions towards empowering our generationn, God bless you real good, i am blessed via your articles sir, you are a germ sir, GOD BLESS YOU SIR.
September 23, 2010 at 7:59 am (UTC 1)
Most young ladies or girl rush into marriage and rush because they have not take their time to prayerfully ask God is this the right man for me? If the answer is YES ask God for the NEXT step. You don’t see a man and jump into conclusion that, that is the right man for me just because both of you attend the same church. It doesn’t work like that. This story is a regular occurrence among ladies. Why must you go and cook and to clean a mans house whom you’re yet to marry? You call that a christian courtship? In the process of you going to clean his house and cook for him you may end up having sex together and eventually get you pregnant. For your relationship with a man to work see what God says in Hebrew 13:4 Remember any pre-marital pregnance will not be wedded in the church of God
Thank you
August 24, 2010 at 2:22 pm (UTC 1)
Dear friend,
Dipo Tepede is giving out a 25-page FREE REPORT that I believe you should look into. The title of the report is: 7 Reasons Why Ladies Date the Wrong Guy: Taking your time to read it might be the answer to the issues you have been battling with. You may click the link below or copy the link and place in the address bar of your browser to get instructions on how to get it.
August 5, 2010 at 9:44 am (UTC 1)
@ Bose,
Please, kindly use the contact forrn by clicking the link below:
http://www.dipotepede.org/contact-dipo/
August 5, 2010 at 9:20 am (UTC 1)
need ur help am abt choosing a life partner
August 2, 2010 at 10:43 pm (UTC 1)
pls i really need ur help too,cos the story i just red is talking to me too,cos i am in the same sheo with her.
July 11, 2010 at 12:05 pm (UTC 1)
how much is the one that has pipe
May 19, 2010 at 8:37 pm (UTC 1)
real word . hello canape i jut want to know why many relation shit are not going too long before it break…
May 11, 2010 at 9:26 am (UTC 1)
hi
thanks 4 being a blessing to ur generation,am glad u had made a +ve impact.i chatted wit u on skype few months back,after which we never chat. the issue on dis topic is what every lady must know ,cos we have wolves in sheep clothings.pls send me the free report thur my mail,cos i want to know how to handle my relationships….
thanks
May 10, 2010 at 11:39 pm (UTC 1)
Ur guy’s should keep up by saving people’s life ie solving problem
May 10, 2010 at 10:03 pm (UTC 1)
i was blessed by this piece. pls i;d love to get more messages like this to guide us as christian sisters, so we can scale thru our relationships to the glory of God and make out blessed marrieges. thank you.
May 10, 2010 at 9:10 pm (UTC 1)
to pe contacted
December 22, 2009 at 3:49 pm (UTC 1)
hi dpo tepede, i want to know why men made mistake in their relationship.
October 19, 2009 at 2:36 pm (UTC 1)
Good one!
Relationship issues could really get grievious amongst singles…
Thanks for choosing to make a POSITIVE difference on this issue.
God Bless…
October 15, 2009 at 1:23 pm (UTC 1)
nice one dipo, you are indeed making a great difference and great reward awaits you and your generation.
balogun